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About The Motherhood

Since time began mothers have turned to each other for just about everything.

Now, with The Motherhood, mothers can talk, listen, be there for each other and get awesome ideas and help, whenever you have the time and from wherever you are.

Circles, our version of conversation groups, are the heart of The Motherhood.

Think circling the wagons, coming full circle, circle of friends, inner circle, circle of life, winners' circle, sewing circles - you get the idea.

Whatever you might need from a circle of mothers - a laugh, a shoulder, advice, information, understanding - you can find it here.

Welcome!

Bios

Hi, we're Cooper and Emily

We've been friends and worked together, on and off, for the last 20 years. We live in separate cities, Pittsburgh, PA and Larchmont, NY, and over the last four years, we've shared a blog and now this web site.

About Us

  • 1961 Emily born
  • 1966 Cooper born
  • 60's-70's Emily grew up in Baltimore with four brothers
  • 60's-80's Cooper grew up in Pittsburgh with one sister
  • 1979 Emily went to Kenyon College
  • 1984 Cooper went to Kenyon College (first of several coincidences)
  • 1984 Emily started doing time in windowless DC public affairs firm, won "most billable hours" award three years in a row, never left the office
  • 1988 Cooper joined exact same company, came in second for most billable hours, never left the office
  • Not doing that again
  • 1992 Emily moved to NYC, had some cool jobs
  • 1992 Cooper moved to NYC, had some cool jobs
  • 1995 Emily got married to Andy
  • 1995 Cooper got married to Rick
  • 1995 Emily started new public affairs company (with plenty of windows)
  • 1995 Cooper joined the company, and it was awesome
  • 1996 Emily started fertility treatments
  • 1997-2004 Cooper had four babies, got a dog
  • 1998 Emily co-wrote the book Living With the End in Mind with her best friend Erin Kramp, which Oprah and ABC News 20/20 loved
  • 1998-1999 Emily lost Erin, her mother-in-law and stepfather to cancer
  • 2000 Cooper moved back to Pittsburgh and began to write for the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette
  • 2000-2002 Emily had two babies, and the dog adjusted
  • 2003 Emily and Cooper started writing together
  • 2004 Started a blog together, fell in love with the moms online
  • 2005 Launched the Been There Clearinghouse (one of the most personally important, moving things either of us had ever been a part of) in response to Hurricane Katrina, won Best of Blogs Award for Most Inspirational Blog of the Year
  • 2006-2007 Worked on issues affecting mothers in the U.S. and around the globe through MomsRising.org and Blogher.com. Launched a beta version of The Motherhood.com which was a finalist for a Webby and won a WebAward
  • 2008 Rebuilt The Motherhood.com from the ground up. We're really proud of it and are so glad you're here

The Motherhood Charter

We know

Becoming a mother means becoming a wholly new human being

And that transformation can be overwhelming, exhilarating, confusing, wonderful, challenging

We know

When mama ain't happy, nobody's happy

We know

Mothers shoulder so much

Put everyone else first

See the forest through the trees

We know

We bust our tails no matter where the heck we work

When we set our minds to something, nothing stops us

We know

Mothers are the rock

We provide the soft place to fall

And we're the ones who connect the dots

We know

No mother is perfect

There is no right way of mothering

That we are all on our own paths

We know

We all have histories and hurts

We have a story to tell

And something to contribute

We know

No one understands a mother like another mother

We need each other

We know

The world underestimates its mothers

And we sometimes underestimate ourselves

We believe

Society needs to give mothers a break

And we need to stop beating ourselves up

We believe

Every one of us has her own gifts

And, every step of the way, we're learning a bit more about who we are

We believe

That mothers working together can accomplish anything

That there is infinite power in a community of mothers

We believe

The web opens up endless possibilities

And we are only limited by our imaginations as to how to use it for good

It's time

For mothers to have a neighborhood of our own

A place that is smart, safe, positive, productive and warm

It's time

To stop listening to the judgmental voices that second guess every move we make

To embrace our inner matriarch

It's time

To remind the universe that it's the mothers who make the world go around

It's time

To make everything a little better

in our lives

in our communities

on the earth

together

The Motherhood is for you.

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