I need to get my nerve back...
6 posts
-
Becki 
734 posts
Posted 7 months ago
Ever since my daughter was in the hospital, I’ve been so petrified of anything happening to her. I didn’t foresee her getting pneumonia, and I shudder to think what could have happened if I’d delayed even one more day in getting her treatment. I find myself thinking (much more than can be normal) about all the bad things that could happen to her. Has anyone ever experienced this? I need to find a way to stop worrying, because it’s not at all productive.
-
Cooper
87 posts
Posted 7 months ago
Becki! I’ve been there. Two of my four have spent time in Children’s Hospital and each time it took my a while to get back to “normal” in terms of worry. You will soon get back to before, promise.
In the meantime—HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
-
Brandie
770 posts
Posted 7 months ago
I think this is normal and it will go away soon. We had a similar situation with my oldest. We were literally told, waiting just a couple more hours to bring her in could have been deadly. To top it off, while she was in the hospital (14 months old) I had a miscarriage.
It took a bit to return to normal and not be so worried and freaked out. I think she would cough once and I would call the doctor. She had RSV at a time when no one knew what RSV was. No one had even heard of it when she had it and so we felt at a loss with talking to others about it.
Even now, just thinking about it, makes my heart race thinking of that time. But we got over that hump. And I became less protective.
I think it takes time and also, embrace the feelings you have. We have feelings for a reason and when we tell ourselves to make them go away or that they are the “wrong” feeling, I believe we simply draw out the time we have to deal with it. So embrace it, feel worried now. Allow yourself to feel it as strongly as you can – just sit with it. And usually I find that just doing that brings me peace much faster than trying to fight the feelings.
((((hugs))))
-
Becki
734 posts
Posted 7 months ago
Thanks, guys. I keep trying to remind myself of my faith, and that God is in control of everything and that everything unfolds as it does for a reason—but I still find myself trying to get all up in His business and tell him how to work stuff.
-
Raznoggle
2 posts
Posted 7 months ago
Hey I think you’re totally “normal.” It’s called being human- ha ha! We all have the tendency to make something horrible happen in our mind. I think it is a way of “preparing” ourselves for the emotional tole of something that “could” actually happen. However, the problem with worry is that it causes REAL emotions that we may never have had to go through in life otherwise. I haven’t had any “close calls” with my son, BUT I have had struggles with my brain seemingly taking off with me and the “what ifs” that are totally ridiculous. For instance, the other day I was thinking that if he was kidnapped now there would be no way he’d remember me. It made me so sad and so scared, and yet even though bad things do happen, what are the chances?? I’m glad that you’re leaning on your faith for help because I too have to give my little family to God on a daily basis and remind myself that He loves and cares for them so much more than I ever could. Keep it up, I’m sure you’ll get through this hurtle and while you’re thinking about it, snuggle your daughter a little bit more, and cherish every moment you have with the special people in your life
-
Becki
734 posts
Posted 7 months ago
I’ll do my best to follow that excellent advice. Thank you for taking the time to give it!
Login to join the conversation
