Why I hate Mother's Day (a crabby little rant)
7 posts
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Becki 
492 posts
Posted 9 days ago
I hate Mother’s Day like some people hate Christmas, because of what it’s supposed to be and how it always falls short. My husband is so busy at work that he always forgets about it until the last minute (not just for me, but for HIS mom, so I have to be thinking ahead and take care of her gift). I don’t even want a gift, I’d just love some homemade cards from my kids, but I don’t want to have to remind my husband to remind the kids to make them. And if my son asks again this year why there’s no “Kids Day,” I may become violent, since EVERY day for him is a day in which someone does his laundry, prepares his food, and cleans his house, and he gets to relax.
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Brandie
497 posts
Posted 9 days ago
Sorry Becki :-(
Maybe you need to send your husband blunt reminders before Mother’s Day or learn to lower your standards and enjoy the day for whatever it is it becomes in your house.
I personally, do not hesitate at all to hand him a list of requests and let him know exactly what I want! Honestly, he gives me lists for his birthday/father’s day/Christmas/etc and I do the same. I’m sure he could come up with a few things to give me on his own, but truthfully, I’d rather he just got something from my list. It makes it easier for him – he doesn’t have to worry I won’t like it and it makes it easier for me because I get what I want =)
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Becki
492 posts
Posted 9 days ago
I’ve actually come up with my own solution: the week before MD, usually on Friday, I give myself the afternoon off from my usual drudgery, take myself out for lunch, browse the bookstore, maybe get a pedicure. That way I get the pampering I want, and whatever I get on Sunday is a bonus.
If my husband ever asked what I wanted for Mother’s Day, I would tell him, but otherwise the blunt reminder feels like cheating to me, because what I really want is to have my needs and wants noticed. He’s very appreciative and often tells me what a good wife and mom I am, so I guess this one day isn’t all that important.
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atticus
1 post
Posted 5 days ago
I HATE mother’s day….I HATE Valentine’s day….
My husband is in the flower business, therefore it’s a never-ending cycle between Valentine’s day, Easter and Mother’s day…it seems Mther’s day weekend is the first weekend he’s home in months…and the kids want to be with him…and that’s fine…..But all the ‘advertizing’ surrounding mother’s day just reinforces the fact the a) my mom’s gone, b) his mom’s gone c) my step mother lives miles away and reallly isn’t involved in my life…. guess i’m just feeling sorry for myself somewhat….my kids have a lot a ‘anamosity’ toward my husband at this time of year, and even trying to have lunch together today was VERY TRYING on my nerves. We had to have lunch today because my husband could not plan ahead to make reservations for tomorrow…...
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mrrde
1 post
Posted 5 days ago
Hi I am writing from Australia I feel sooo far away from you guys.
I actually cancelled mothers day today at my place I feel it is so overated.
I am trying to teach my children that mothers day is everday not one silly day of the year.
But there is a happy ending after cancelling mothers day and telling my kids what I thought they could do with the day
I woke up this morning to a knock at the door when i opened it who was there my kids had come laden with goodies to cook me breakfast .
Truly remarkable day
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Becki
492 posts
Posted 4 days ago
I hope Mother’s Day exceeds everyone’s expectations (or fears). I know really all I want is just to not be taken for granted, and if I get that, then the day is a success.
I think MD is hard for a lot of people—women who want to be mothers and aren’t, women for whom motherhood isn’t turning out like the Hallmark cards say, women (like me and atticus) who have lost their moms. I just hope for a happy and peaceful day, no matter what we call it.
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Brandie
497 posts
Posted 4 days ago
(((atticus))) I’m sorry mother’s day is so rotten over there.
And mrrde – sounds like the kids really did try to make today special for you which is nice.
I really do hope that every one did have a great day today.
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