Any thoughts on what makes a good marriage?
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Becki 
734 posts
Posted 9 months ago
I’m lucky enough to be in one, but I sure didn’t plan for it. I just got lucky. It turns out my husband and I have very similar religious values and financial styles, and I think if we didn’t, our marriage might be a disaster. How could we have not talked about this stuff beforehand? We weren’t kids.
If I were advising my daughter, I’d tell her to discuss things like faith and finances with a prospective mate. What other things do you guys think are important?
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Brandie
770 posts
Posted 4 months ago
Parenting styles …. you certainly wouldn’t want to be at opposite ends of parenting ideas I think. (of course, that is assuming she’ll want to be a mother someday).
We did talk about it – of course, it was while I was already pregnant – but we saw a counselor a couple of times. We had to take this compatibility test and it showed right from the beginning that we were pretty similar to start with. We had to talk over a few issues we weren’t eye to eye with.
Although, I do want to point out, my opinions have naturally changed and evolved since then. (As they should have – I was 19 at the time LOL) And fortunately we have evolved in similar ways so that’s good. But I think even talking about it pre-wedding isn’t a guarentee that things will be okay for the long run – ya know? I do believe it is a good idea for sure, but it’s not end all be all either!
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Becki
734 posts
Posted 2 months ago
Yeah, parenting style is a pretty major thing. I have seen some serious blowouts between parents who disagreed with the others’ parenting style and kept trying to sabotage each other. It’s an excellent way to end up divorced.
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