How easy do you find it to criticize your spouse?
2 posts
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Becki 
693 posts
Posted 4 months ago
I ask because I found it necessary the other day to explain to my (generally wonderful) husband that when he leaves his dinner dishes on the table, and the last thing I do before bed is clean them up, the last thing I feel like when I come to bed is fooling around. I told him that having to act like his mother is fundamentally incompatible with wanting to act like his girlfriend. I spoke kindly and softly, but I still felt bad, because he NEVER criticizes me, and believe me, he’s got ample cause to.
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Brandie
713 posts
Posted 2 months ago
Hmmm … I rarely criticize him. And he rarely criticizes me. I think by now we’ve learned to live with each others faults so to say and it helps a lot. I know he is this way and I can’t change it so I just accept it. Some days it can be hard to accept though – hence the rarely criticize him, because we do do it – just (thankfully) not often. But in the grand scheme of things, I do way more to annoy him then he does to annoy me so really he is the saint in this relationship!
We also have a great ability to laugh at each other and we can really talk – which I don’t know, we were both this way from the start. Everyone told me we were so lucky and I didn’t get it then, but now I understand why. So often I hear women say they can’t tell their husband things or their husband won’t take them seriously when they have ideas, etc, etc and I just feel so sad for that :-(
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