Just saw this. Dressing alike? There are so many things wrong with that. Yes, they are modeling the behavior for their daughters. Mom cliques are not abnormal but one where they all wear matching outfits is a scary hybrid I don't see very often.

In general grown women trying to act like they are 18 again just rubs me the wrong way. On the other hand, some groups aren't clicky per se, but it can be hard to be the new person and I think some people give up too easily and use they're clicky as an excuse to do so. Clearly, not always the case, but something to keep in mind I think too. So how can you balance that, especially when you are the newcomer and feeling like the outsider to begin with?

Do they really see through it? At my daughters' school, I see the torch being passed down from mother to daughter time and time again and it pervades every activity that the kids are involved in from soccer to PTO-sponsored after school enrichment activities to girl scouts. It gets discouraging after awhile.

I think she's found her anger, but I don't think she's found her power.

Great Q! In my humble and nonexpert anecdotally based opinion, I think there's a lot of truth in this. Absolute? No way. But, I have anecdotally found it to be true more times than not. I can't wait to see what Rosalind thinks.

Yes they are modeling bad behavior but I guarantee that those women don't see it like that--or the vast majority of them don't. They think that they have been friends forever and they like hanging our with each other--the same explanations girls give me. But as girls get older they often see through the mom clique--to their benefit. Its one of the things they do to authentically grow up--whether they are 15 or 35.

They're definitely not modeling good behavior!