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  NotQuiteSusie Oh my gosh thank you for this chat. My son turned 10 mons yesterday & my Hubby & I still aren't even close to having sex as often as we used to. We're 21 & 22- we shouldn't have such lame libidos! I'm going to read what's been said so far!

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  Brandie Thank you for this chat. Now sex is way on the brain and I wish hubs were not at work ROFL! ;-)

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  inkscrblr Glad i could make it - even if I was late to the party. Always fun Live talks at The Motherhood.

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  Nina Restieri Thanks ladies I had fun chatting with you all!

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  ChatterBox This was a BLAST everyone! Nice to meet you all and good luck! ;)

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  cathyreads great chat ladies (and gents) thanks!

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    Mominatrix Thanks for joining in!

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  Redneck Mommy A big thanks to Emily and the Mominatrix for having me here today. Also a huge shout out to our sponsor Zestra! To everyone who participated: THANK YOU. You all made my morning!

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    Mominatrix I have a packet staring at me on my desk. Putting it in my drawer now. Thanks Zestra - and Emily/Cooper for hosting this when others might have run screaming!

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    Emily Loved it! Thank you, thank you for bringing all your awesomeness!!!
    
    Thanks Zestra for sponsoring!

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    Tamsen Fadal Thanks for having us! And enjoy the Zestra!!!

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    RoleMommy Have to say, this definitely did spice up my afternoon. Thanks for the great advice - and Nina - do you have a section in that MomAgenda on when to schedule sex? If not, I think you have a new section for next year :)

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    Mominatrix Yes, my mood is definitely on the up and up. Thanks everyone!

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    Mominatrix Haha Nina - that could be a fun "Mominatrix/MomAgenda" add it feature :) A little "handcuffs" icon, perhaps!

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    Nina Restieri Beth--you are so right!!

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  Emily I'll tell you what ... we know have 5,000 more reasons to buy Kristen's book!!!!!! This Talk was fabulous. I laughed SO hard, Kegels wouldn't have helped. Oh, you girls are so so so good. And bad.
  
  Thank you for hosting a fantastic conversation today. So honored and privileged to be here with you!!!!!!!!!!!

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    Brandie Thanks everyone for a great chat! =)

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    ClumberKim Thanks everyone! Looks like I have some reading to do!

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    Brandie Yes, the book is really great and I highly recommend reading it!!! =)

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  Mominatrix Thanks so much everyone - if you have more questions or comments: mominatrixbook@gmail.com - and I do a weekly podcast here:
  
  http://www.mominatrixradio.com
  
  It's so great to be a part of an open, non-judgmental discussion about something that needs to be discussed more! Just because we're moms doesn't mean we aren't sexy. It just takes us a little longer to get the underwear on and off (ha!).

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  Emily The winner of book #5 - the final giveaway is .... Mamagirl!!! You rock, girl!! Thanks for all your great contributions!

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    Mamagirl AWESOME!! I can't wait to read it!

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    Brandie Congrats!!!! =)

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    Nina Restieri You are so lucky mamagirl!

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  StephanieK So, my husband and I have been married 9 yrs. We have 2 kids (6 and 3), and I feel like our sex life is great and not boring. He, of course, would like to have sex more...but with schedules to keep up with, day-to-day stuff, little sleep, and the kids and their needs, it feels like "one more thing" to keep on top of (frequency we're having it each week). I think from my husbands' perspective, we're not "doing it" as often as the rest of parents in the USA with relatively young kids! Suggestions on any of these topics?

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    Mominatrix Hi Stephanie - We talked a bit about this - and honestly, once a week is pretty darn good! I think you both have to be realistic - but my guess is that because it's so good, he wants more (can't blame him).
    
    I think there's always compromises to be made - maybe it's more than once one week - in exchange for something maybe :) - Make a game out of it - I'd put out for the dishes done more frequently (ha).
    
    But I'd let him know that 1x a week is great - and that there are ways for him to get more...

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    StephanieK Well, we're definitely hitting the once a week mark! I'll have to ponder the game idea...good one.

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    Mominatrix That honey-do list might just get a little shorter... :)

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    Brandie Dh and I try for twice a week - that feels like a win - it is hard - between kids, work, homeschooling, housework, etc, etc. How often does dh think you should be doing it? And how often are you doing it - if the gap isn't that far off, maybe try to add one more time?

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    StephanieK I think he'd be happy with 3x/week. We usually hit at least 2....

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    Mominatrix You ladies set the bar high. KUDOS!

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  Mominatrix I highly recommend reading Cecily's BJ post - it's enlightening... http://www.imperfectparent.com/mominatrix/im-a-mominatrix.php?id=2 (link is in the interview)

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    Emily Love the support meetings!

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  Redneck Mommy Hmmm, maybe for Father's Day I'll try tickling his prostate. Have never tried that and can pass it off as a health check....

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    HeadlessMom He'll go nuts. Srsly

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    ChatterBox OMG!

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    Emily So funny. OMG, you make me laugh.

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    Nina Restieri LMFAO!

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    CK May want to send a warning shot off the bow, first.
    
    Ever have your hub say hello to the "other" in without letting you know?

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    ClumberKim He will remember Father's Day. Guaranteed.

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    Redneck Mommy @CK Payback is a bitch. Let's see how he likes it when I go "Oops! Wrong hole!"

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  Emily Book # four (this convo is moving so fast, I lost track of time)! The winner is: rbscherl
  
  Congratulations!!!!

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    Tamsen Fadal congrats!!!

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    Brandie COngrats!!!

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  Mominatrix I know this is late in the game, but the post-partum stretching threw me for a loop. Still has. Completely affected our sex life. Anyone else?

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    pinkmomofblue Yeah, it's like putting a piece of spaghetti inside a piece of ziti.

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    Kristen Hammond #1 and #3 had heads in the 99th percentile. So yes.

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    Mominatrix Or like my friend Lotta said "Throwing a hot dog down a hallway" LOL.

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    magpie Snort. My c-section was good for something...

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    Redneck Mommy Here's where I remind you that Kegels are a girls best friend. Especially those who accidentally pee while jumping on the trampoline.

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    Brandie Don't hate me - neither dh nor I have ever noticed a difference there pre- and post-baby and I vaginally delivered 3 babies. It's gotta be genetic - because I don't know how else to explain it.

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    Mominatrix Ha. Magpie :) My comments about that are in the book!
    
    And yes, Kegels. I need to add them to my workout regimen. FOR SURE.

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    Mominatrix And Kristen - stop bragging (heh).

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    CK Angle plays a big role in those that deal with this.

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    Brandie Kegels are great - especially during sex!

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    Mominatrix Yes!

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    Mominatrix Yeah angle. Also pumps of the man kind (ha). I will say it was much less disconcerting for him that it was for me. I'm still not over it. And haven't quite figured out how to make it work. Now being pg (intercourse is uncomfy for me after about 22 weeks pg), I'll have to wait until #4 to figure it out.

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    Piper Heiney Wedge = great angle. Or so I hear.

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  Mominatrix Also, a great gift to your partner/husband and your family is to TAKE CARE OF YOURSELVES MAMAS - and I don't just mean sexually (heh).

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    Nina Restieri This is SO TRUE!!! Nothing is more important. Take care of your body, pursue your own interests/friendships, have your own life. It's a gift to your hubby/kids, and a gift to yourself.

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    inkscrblr I agree. Big time. I feel better about myself in every sense when I am exercising and trying to take care of self.

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    Mominatrix It's amazing how doing things that doesn't necessarily relate directly to sex CAN BE SEXY. Don't discount anything from new make up to new shoes to a new bra/underwear ETC. Amazing!

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    StephanieK I have only recently realized the benefits of this, and wish I had sooner! It's easy to "lose yourself" in being a parent and wife sometimes. But you will be better on both fronts if you make--and take (which is sometimes hard for us women)--time for yourself.

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    Redneck Mommy I always feel super duper sexy when my hair is freshly done. It's worth the money to see a stylist who knows what they're doing.

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    Lorraine Getting in shape and exercising regularly has helped my sex drive immensely! I feel sexier when I'm in shape!

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    Mominatrix Yes, I never understood the value of a blow out (ahem) - but really, that $20 is worth it just to have someone style your hair. And it lasts a few days - or a couple - depending on how many kids and pool dates you have.

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    StephanieK And I recently bought some decent workout clothes, which I hadn't really thought much about in the past. I feel sexier--and want to work harder to be that way--when I feel that way with all those mirrors in the gym!

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    Mominatrix Great point! The icky gym clothes can sometimes be a downer. I did the same and not only felt better, but more motivated to work out!!!

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  Emily The winner of Book Number Three is .... inkscrblr!!!! Congratulations!!!!!
  
  And don't forget to send an email to share@getzestra.com with your mailing address to be one of twenty-five to win a free sample!

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    Brandie Congrats!!!!! =)

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    Mominatrix Congrats! And yes - everyone get themselves some Zestra!

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    inkscrblr Oh thanks so much.

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  Redneck Mommy With Father's day coming up, I want to give my husband something special to thank him for the gift of stretch marks, saggy boobs and children I'm left alone to raise. Because I'm lazy it totally means he's getting head. Quick and easy. It's a total win win.

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    Mominatrix Did you see this, Tanis: http://www.imperfectparent.com/mominatrix/fathers-day-gift-guide.php
    
    (It's my new guide...)

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    Lorraine @Redneck Mommy LMAO!

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    Nina Restieri Tanis, my husband's birthday is the day before father's day. So I get to kill 2 birds with 1 stone!

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    Kristen Hammond And cheap, Tanis!! THAT'S win-win-win.

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    ChatterBox Nina and Redneck Mommy are KILLING me!

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    Redneck Mommy Checking it out right now. I'm always game for new ideas. Preferably ones that won't give me lock-jaw.

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    RoleMommy Download an erotic book on Kindle and read it together then get busy. Do they have erotic books on Kindle? Inquiring minds want to know.

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    Mominatrix Yes - there are a ton of ways to get erotic books - and best online since no cheesy covers.
    
    My fave is: http://www.ravenousromance.com - but I think if you search amazon, you'll find a bunch!

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    CK Men everywhere are hi-fiving your husband, though. Don't skimp on the jobs. Men know it means love, and we do appreciate it. :)

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    Tiruba Tuba Oh they have erotic books on Kindle and they are FREE! Just tuned in here :) Still, head is much easier.

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    CK @Nina - Oh come on now. Didn't you feel jilted as a kid when celebration days were combined? A little cheated, perhaps?

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    Nina Restieri My hub might feel jilted but no way he is getting 2 bj's in 1 weekend

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    Brandie That is very nice! I have major jaw issues which means you should all feel very very very sorry for my husband.

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    Mominatrix Welcome TT!

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    RoleMommy OMG Nina - you crack me up.

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    cathyreads don't want him to go and get all spoiled or anything right Nina? ; )

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    Mominatrix Haha Nina. I'd say make the b-day "foreplay" or something.

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    Emily Oh, too funny.

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    CK Whoa whoa, lockjaw ladies. I'm not saying you spoil him in one weekend. Spread the love.

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    ChatterBox CK you are hysterical! So glad you joined in!

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    Piper Heiney CK, "spread the love?" You're punning with us, right?

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  inkscrblr Hi there, I am just popping by. Sorry I am late.
  
  Paula

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    Mominatrix Welcome Paula - you can click around to see some of the questions and comments - but glad to have you!

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    inkscrblr Thanks. I will do that.

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    ClumberKim You're not last...I'm even later!

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    Mominatrix Hellllooo Kim!

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    Emily Hi Kim!!! Welcome!!!!!

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    Kim Hello!
    Trying to catch up!

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  Mominatrix Speaking of dads: I had dads contribute to my Valentine's Day Gift Guide - so if you want to get into their heads, here's what they said:
  
  http://www.imperfectparent.com/mominatrix/valentines-day-gift-guide.php

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    CK Last one's a very good point. But to take it farther re: "date night" types of situations... not just the onus of "an evening out" -- If a dad knows that as long as he doesn't mess the whole night up saying something stupid, and he KNOWS he's gettin' some, you'll probably end up with a pretty good and fun night.

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    Mominatrix Yes good point. Unless you're in my house. Where I have to watch being the one to say something stupid.

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    ChatterBox Me too Mominatrix

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    Redneck Mommy I have that problem too Kristen. I'm usually the one inserting my foot in my mouth. The only good part about that is that if my foot is my mouth that means his dick isn't. However, toejam sucking isn't as fun as mattress dancing...sigh.

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    CK The roles (and tasks) can also be reversed. Lockjaw isn't just for women.

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    ChatterBox Redneck Mommy, CK - ROFLMAO!

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    Mominatrix CK - I think that's a t-shirt "Lockjaw isn't just for women"

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