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Ten celebrity mom bloggers led a Talk on trends in the Mom Blogosphere. The community talked about: - Twitter, Facebook, Foursquare - enhancing or taking away from blogging? - Advice for bloggers wanting to get the word out - Mom bloggers and brands - here to stay and the Do's and Don'ts for bloggers and brands - Predictions for 2011 and more!
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The State of the Mom Blogosphere
Sep 14, 2010 Tuesday, 1:00pm EST - Add as Favorites
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- juliepippert 36 comments
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How has microblogging affected your overall approach to blogging as outreach, and how do you work all the mediums (geolocating, microblogging, blogging, etc.) together for your overall blog/brand/personal outreach?
about 1 year ago
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- Jennifer James 34 comments
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Question: If we see behavior in the mom blogging community that could hurt our brand as mom bloggers, should we call it out or let it go?
about 1 year ago
cheeriokeeper
I would have to say that depends... at what point does calling it out make us look like the bad guys? And also, at what point does it hurt our own brand? I've found that sometimes just walking away from those situations and distancing myself from bloggers that are catty or manipulative is the best option.
about 1 year ago
ThisFullHouse
i agree with Laurua -- I'd like to hear more about the good stuff or folks who are doing it right, too!!!
about 1 year ago
@DelTheDad
Haha, right on @AndreaUpdyke. :) Gotta do what ya gotta do sometimes.
about 1 year ago
@DelTheDad
Christine Koh exactly! It is how we learn and grow as adults and individuals. I didnt realize how many have dealth with hurtful bloggers. When is the line crossed? Remember that we are all individuals and not just puppets for bigger enterprises. I know everyone wants money, but sometimes principles and values need to be upheld its called integrity. What am I saying its 2010.
about 1 year ago
@AndreaUpdyke
@Del I wasn't thinking about specific slander in this instance but yes, that would have to be dealt with. I read the question with more of a behavior/gossip/swag-hag vibe in mind. Stirring the pot might be just that. Getting people riled up for the wrong reasons. I think that being direct with the offending party FIRST is the way to go. And if that doesn't work and the only way to see change is to bring it to the masses, then so be it.
about 1 year ago
Emily
Nice, Laura. Love that.
about 1 year ago
Maria Melee
Another tactic I often forget is to just DO what you believe in and hope that you're setting a positive example for someone. I often forgo this and end up all butthurt and judgy on Twitter or somewhere. And then I feel like a bozo.
about 1 year ago
Crissy
Totally depends on the situation. If it is a personal issue, I tend to go straight to the person and address the problem. If it is a blogging behavior that simple rubs you the wrong way, well, I think it's generally best we all play in our own yards and try to accept or ignore the choices that other bloggers make.
about 1 year ago
Maria Melee
Laura that's such a good point. It's totally possible to "call out' bad behavior by shining a light on people who are doing good things. It runs the risk of saying "you should be doing things _____ way" but I think that's often way more constructive than saying "people who do things _____ way are doing it wrong." If that makes sense. ;)
about 1 year ago
@DelTheDad
But then again, if others are being hurt, it can be better for you to move up cause people want to stay out of the issue. Its happened to my wife, she had to play catchup and those who said they were friends dont really care cause they are doing fine. So I can see why some dont care...
about 1 year ago
YUMMommy
I say separate yourself from situation or person and let them know that you can't be associated with such negativity. I think more people are willing to call others on stupid stuff, but then when it's something serious they choose to turn a blind eye to it.
about 1 year ago
lauramayes
I am all about calling out the good...good work, good ideas, good words. I believe good wins in the end.
about 1 year ago
Mom101
Yes Justice Fergie - constructive is good. "You feed your kid X so you're going to hell" Is not good.
about 1 year ago
@DelTheDad
@AndreaUpdyke Unless you have experience with dealing with another hurtful blogger, its not as easy as saying walk away. What if they create lies and rumors about you. Do you just ignore it and let them grow and spread? It may not hurt you, but it does hurt someone.
about 1 year ago
Deborah
I would treat it as though we were in person. Sometimes that means letting it go. Other times that means a private chat. Nobody should to be berated in public.
about 1 year ago
traceyclark
I love you Grace.
about 1 year ago
Denise
hmm.. that is a tough one since blogging is so subjective. It has a different function for so many. Some are in it just to vent, others to make money, and many just to not lose their sanity as they navigate parenthood, working, life in general. If you call it out you risk putting your ultimate goal over the other blogger's. If it is something you don't agree with I would just recommend stating your opinion via comment. But if you don't like the way that blogger is conducting business on their blog, I don't think there is a way to win that one. For instance, I know some bloggers who are adamantly against bloggers contacting companies to ask if they can do a review for free products. But for others, it has opened many doors. When you are starting out you have to go after the business until you get to the point where they are knocking down your door.
about 1 year ago
GraceD
I had a previous hobby of Calling It Out. I stopped. Though it was a rush to be something of a cop, it is counterproductive. Though, I must say I do appreciate it when someone does take the poorly behaved down to the mat.
about 1 year ago
@DelTheDad
If the pastor guy would have been ignored, it would have made its way to youtube and some news channels and carried through with. Even more turmoil around the world. Its was dissolved, dealt with, and now we can ALL move on.
about 1 year ago
@babysteph
I do have to say taking care of it privately is best. Through google alerts I found out about a blogger I didn't know was blogging negatively about me. I emailed the blogger and was VERY hurt, it was a misunderstanding on her part and she publicly apologized, and we worked it out and actually developed a relationship over it to this day. I enjoy reading her blog and I had never read it before that incident! LOL!
about 1 year ago
parenthacks
Mom101 has been an amazing advocate for the mom blogosphere as a community, and I have always been grateful to her for opening up the discussion on issues that affect all of us. It's not about call individuals out...it's about thinking about how our actions affect all of us.
about 1 year ago
Christine Koh
Do you mean generally or tagging a name to it? At any rate, I think it has been very powerful to see the dialog about various issues. I mean, isn't it amazing all the "swag hag" stuff that went down at Blogher 2009 and then measures were put in place and people were reminded to behave and I don't believe I saw anybody knocking anyone else over for eco-friendly sponges at BlogHer 2010.
about 1 year ago
Maria Melee
I like Liz's response. I find myself having an overly-emotional reaction to things in the blogosphere sometimes. I've sat on things and I've also blogged about them. It doesn't always go well. But I agree that reflection and introspection and discussion are important. And I TRULY believe that women can have heated conversations and disagreements. It doesn't make us catty or crazy. Everyone's lines and comfort levels are different. What one person might consider to be an appropriate "call out" might be considered drama by another.
about 1 year ago
Justice Fergie
Sigh. I like to be constructive. So it would be a judgment call for me based on the specific situation. I might even approach the bad actor individually first...
about 1 year ago
@DelTheDad
I think you should as parents and good people. but many dont want to speak up cause they think that brands wont work them, cause some 'drama'? But if you allow it, what happens when bad things happen to your kids by others?
about 1 year ago
Tésa @ 2 Wired 2 Tired
I agree. My first reaction would be to call it out, but it would depend what it was and in what context.
about 1 year ago
traceyclark
That is a good question but i think it's a losing battle if one was to take a 'calling out' approach, don't you think?
about 1 year ago
Stacey
That is a tough one. I think it depends on the "behavior". Is it something we just don't agree with personally or are they out there trying to hurt another blogger....
about 1 year ago
Mom101
Ooh great question! I think you have to weigh the impact of the behavior. I think of like Pastor Crazypants with his Koran burning stunt and how if we'd just have ignored it, it would have gone away and not drawn more negative attention to the US. I also think that sometimes our responses to bad behavior can be a little overwrought. That said, there's nothing wrong with introspection and reflection, and the fact that we talk about our community is in part what makes the community so cool.
about 1 year ago
@babysteph
I think it almost always gets called out by someone. I am not confrontational, so it probably won't be done by me. It will just affect how I feel about the mom blogger in question.
about 1 year ago
BusyMom
For me, it would depend on what the behavior was and how it affected me.
about 1 year ago
@AndreaUpdyke
I say call it out privately and then let it go. I think it makes the community look terrible when the hashtags start flying. Even if the complaints are legitimate.
about 1 year ago
RobynsWorld
Share it Jennifer! Not everyone may agree - but I know I love reading your posts on the blogging community and really feel you have a true insight into it.
about 1 year ago
Maria Melee
Ooooooo that's a tough question.
about 1 year ago
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Just getting a chance to catch up on the "talk" today, so far, great info. I have really had a lot of traffic from facebook but I'll admit I haven't "gotten" Twitter yet. I set up an account but have not been able to send my first tweet as I'm still trying to figure out if it's the same life simplified tips as from the site.
about 1 year agoJo-Lynne
Yes, Twitter is a great way to keep in touch with other bloggers that I'd like to read but don't have the time.
about 1 year ago@babysteph
I don't do the geolocating thing- I will tweet about stuff but usually don't like to give my exact location. Definitely don't do 4square.
about 1 year agoBusyMom
I admit they have caused a decrease in the frequency of my blogging, mostly because my blogging is usually a brain dump. I LOVE geolocation and Twitter, not as wild about Facebook, but I do it. I look at them as additions to my blogging.
about 1 year agoGraceD
@AlphaMom Molly, WHO IS NOW 19 (as I scream to myself) and her entourage are not geolocating yet. College kids in her circle are still texting and rarely utilize the internet on their cells.
about 1 year ago@babysteph
I think it's a great way for everyone to "hang" out more and feel like we're all on the same page no matter what your stats/how often you blog, etc. It's a great way for me to keep up with my readers vs. having to read a lot of blogs that I don't have time for. Twitter gives me the cliff's notes!
about 1 year agoChristine Koh
My blogs are the centerpiece to what I do in social media but I do utilize Twitter and Facebook as tools to get the word out about what I'm writing about. Though I think it's important to note that Twitter and Facebook appeal to different swaths of people for sure. It's important to adjust accordingly.
about 1 year agoMom101
For me my blog is still the heart of what I do. I'm a writer above all and I want to have a record of my life on there. I really try hard not to put all my energy into Twitter. I love it...but it's so fleeting. Make some funny tweet and eventually it's gone. The writer in me likes the permanence and ownership of the blog. (Although the mad NJ Housewive Fan in me LOOOOVES the microblogging on Twitter!)
about 1 year agoMiss Magpie
My twitter/FB audience are different and I communicate with them differently. Twitter is definitely more of a conversation. It is the ultimate networking tool. I also make sure my blog posts are tied into my fb, twitter, linked-in, etc..
about 1 year agoAlphamom
i'm only concerned about geolocating for kids, not adults. i think the innovation for connecting the offline/ online is gonna happen through apps like 4Square and now FB's similar app.
about 1 year agoGraceD
I think Twitter lends itself more to blog outreach. Facebook is a more "gated community" as you are among chosen neighbors/friends who will read most if not anything you write, whether on your home page or on your blog.
about 1 year agoBlondeMomBlog
I utilize Twitter quite a bit. Facebook is more personal for me to intereact with friends & family although I just launched a Facebook page for my blog and have seen quite a bit of traffic come from that. It's hard for me to imagine that there are people who don't read blogs but DO read Facebook but there are tons of my friends who fall under that category! I have yet to get too excited about geo-locating. I had some weirdness on Facebook with someone creating a fake account and using pics of my girls as their own! Shut them down but that was freaky, to say the least. I don't know..after that I'm hesitant to use geo-locating. I did set up a Whrrl account last week, though. I can see it would be great for sharing pics from social media events I attend.
about 1 year agorockandrollmama
Abbie: I think of it that way because it's the only place I put pics of my kids online, due to my husband's wishes- so I curate contacts more carefully there than anywhere else.
about 1 year agoxiaolinmama
Agreed! I get WAY more comments on FB. I tweet a random thought that isn't quite right for a full post.
about 1 year agoBrandie
I love twitter - but I don't often tweet things I would put in the blog. I really am not a big fan of facebook. I am for the most part only linked with family and good friends. And I only link to the blog on facebook if I've written about our family or things I think people there want to read. So maybe 1 our of every 8 posts I link there?
about 1 year agolaura vanderkam
@JusticeFergie- what do you like about Foursquare? Not sure I quite "get it" yet...
about 1 year agotraceyclark
I agree babysteph. I love fb and Twitter for that. I have so many things I like to share now that i wouldn't have shared on my blog. It's fun to be able to talk about things and share in smaller snippets.
about 1 year ago@DelTheDad
I wonder if twitter has as big as an impact as many including myself think. I hope, since I have wasted time on it. But I have met some genuinely nice people...
about 1 year agojuliepippert
@Alphamom -- how do you want to use geolocating? Which tool? Do you worry about privacy/security?
about 1 year agoMaria Bosak
I feel FB gives a nice portal for followers to preview topics but to also keep track of many blogs at the same time and allow them to be reminded of the blogs they loved without needing to go directly to the blog.
about 1 year agojuliepippert
@RobynsWorld, twitter - wow. I think FB does better for me but I feel like Twitter has become such a billboard on a highway, KWIM? How do you make it work for you?
about 1 year agojuliepippert
@rockandrollmama I find FB more personal too, also a great medium for connection I find that FB steals comments, though! Once upon a time all my comments were on my blog, and now they are all over the place (FriendFeed, Buzz, FB, Twitter, etc.).
about 1 year agoJustice Fergie
I probably don't use Twitter as much as I should, but I do really enjoy the immediacy and intimacy of it. Whereas blogging feels like me giving a speech, Twitter is a conversation. Oh and I love Foursquare :)
about 1 year agoDaDa Rocks!
Twitter has become my main focus in term of conversation in the family/parenting focus
about 1 year ago24/7 MOMS
tweet , FB, Blog Frog and NING
about 1 year agorobin
I adore Twitter! Love the short and sweet of it all...
about 1 year agoFunniestMOM
Cooper, I have a website www.thefunnymom.com that I also have a blog tab.... but nobody reads it... so i lose interest started just submitting my articles (for lack of a better word) and get them picked up by magazines
about 1 year agoAbbie
interesting that you think FB is more personal. I find since I have less contacts on twitter I actually open up more on there!
about 1 year agoRobynsWorld
I get the most traffic to my blog directly from Twitter
about 1 year ago@babysteph
I think I find that communicating with my readers & peers on Twitter made room for me to only write my "diary" type thoughts on my blog, I keep it for me and save the links and things I want to highlight for tweeting it and posting on Facebook.
about 1 year agojuliepippert
Here's the definition of microblogging: "a form of blogging that allows users to write brief text updates (usually less than 200 characters) and publish them, either to be viewed by anyone or by a restricted group which can be chosen by the user" It's usually Twitter or Facebook or things like that. Here's a great article at RWW about it: http://www.readwriteweb.com/archives/10_micro-blogging_tools_compared.php
about 1 year agoAlphamom
i am so excited about geo-locating. i can't wait til hat reaches critical mass.
about 1 year agoFunniestMOM
Cooper, I tweet and FB!
about 1 year agorockandrollmama
Facebook and Twitter have both really changed the rules of engagement, I think, and I like to leverage them both in different ways- FB still being the more personal by far to me.:)
about 1 year agoCooper
Julie, do you mean Tweeting and FB etc.?
about 1 year agoFunniestMOM
I am so new at blogging, forgive me, but what is microblogging?
about 1 year ago