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6 Truths About Failure GoldieBlox Can Teach Girls

April 2, 2015 by The Motherhood

Photo credit: Stacy, Kids Stuff World

The Motherhood is thrilled to once again partner with GoldieBlox, a brand that is helping girls develop an early interest in learning STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Math) skills. Each GoldieBlox product features a fun story about a girl named Goldie, who has to solve a problem by building a simple machine. The products come with the same pieces Goldie has in the story, so girls can learn and build along with her. We love how Goldie encourages young girls to take risks, try new things and most importantly, never give up.

“The biggest reason for tears in our household are those of frustration. Tears of failure. Tears of being even too afraid to try. And I’ll tell you right now that no amount of saying to my children, ‘You can do it!’ – is going to make them really just try something again that they’ve failed at or were too afraid to try in the first place.” – Tracy, Sellabit Mum

Sound familiar to you? Unfortunately, fear of failure keeps many children (and adults!) from trying new things. Research shows that fear of failure is learned in young girls, not inherent, which means we can help reverse this mindset in girls!

Here are a few truths about failure that a group of awesome bloggers have been teaching their daughters using GoldieBlox:

1. Failure does not mean the end. 

“It is so important for her to learn that failure is not the end! It is just a curve in the road. We talked about my failures. I fail all the time! But it gives me the push I need to keep going and try again. She has that same fire. I hope she never loses it! GoldieBlox encourages this too!” – Heather, Living on Love and Cents

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Photo by Jennifer, Sweet T Makes Three

2. Failure makes room for creativity and innovation.

“Sweet T hauled Goldie and her zipline equipment to her room for quiet time this afternoon and innovated on her own without my help! She doesn’t know what ‘tension’ means, but she couldn’t get enough of it to make her zipline work so she figured out a way to tie one end of the zipline to her rocking chair and move it around the room to get the tension she needed. I checked on her a little later and she had solved the problem of an unstable rocking chair by placing her giant stuffed Eeyore underneath to stabilize it.” – Jennifer, Sweet T Makes Three

3. Failure’s lessons will make you better the next time around. 

“It’s important to me that my daughter knows that it’s ok to fail. Failure is what makes us do even better the next time around. Failure is what makes us be our best.” – Mellisa, Mom Luck

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Photo by Kelly, Texas Type A Mom

4. You can often avoid failure by remaining calm and confident. 

“You know, it’s in the midst of trouble that our true character comes out, isn’t it? She began to get frustrated when she put the drum together, then realized the inside parts were not facing the right direction to finish putting it together. She had to tear the outside paper to get back into the drum to fix it. I wondered how this would affect her. Would she be disappointed? Discouraged? ‘Mom, we can just tape it!’ It was a no brainer! Problem solved. No biggie. There’s not much in life that we get right the first time, is there? Figuring out a solution without losing our cool is a great thing to learn!” – Esther, Laugh With Us Blog

5. Overcoming failure is empowering. 

“Solving problems can make you feel powerful and GoldieBlox helps them achieve that feeling while having fun.” – Bridgette, Experimental Mommy

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Photo by Allison, Some the Wiser

6. Failure is a part of life, and that’s not a bad thing.

“I love that GoldieBlox wants us to teach our children that failure is okay. Many great inventors and leaders failed, again and again. I don’t want my daughter to ever fear failure because failure can lead to innovation. We shouldn’t let fear of failure stop us from trying.” – Melissa, A Sparkle of Genius

“Knowing that adults don’t do well with failure makes it even harder to teach children about it. But as parents, it’s our responsibility to teach our children about failure. The sooner, the better so we can help them vocalize and overcome their failures from early age when those failures aren’t quite as significant as when they’re older.” – Kelly, Texas Type A Mom

Your daughters can experience Goldie’s stories while learning these truths, having fun and confidently growing in their STEM skills! Use coupon code Spring2015-2b8badcd to receive 20% off of any purchases on the GoldieBlox website. Hurry though, offer ends on April 5, 2015!

What lessons has failure taught you that you want your daughters to know? 

Filed Under: Featured Clients Tagged With: Education, GoldieBlox, List, Products, raising girls

Raising Authentic Girls

January 31, 2012 by The Motherhood

It’s a question every mother of a daughter is familiar with, and one that many of us still struggle with, even as adults: how can we empower our girls to embrace the best parts of their authentic selves? Deal with mean girls? Squash insecurities?

 

Rachel Simmons, founder of the Girls Leadership Institute, joined us in The Motherhood to talk about helping our daughters navigate the often treacherous waters of growing up female. Rounding out the discussion panel were Emily of Mommin’ It Up!, Jill of The Diaper Diaries, Molly of GO MOM!, and Jenna of A Mom’s Balancing Act.

 

Below, some of the highlights from our conversation:

 

Mean Girls in the Media

 

Annabeth asked how others deal with all the mainstream TV shows and movies that make mean-girl type behavior seem normal and acceptable.

 

One option, identified by Jill of The Diaper Diaries, was to severely limit exposure to TV and media: “Probably to an extreme, but I don’t apologize for it. There is very little quality programming aimed at youth. I would rather be a “mean mom” than have a mean girl.”

 

Others allow the programming to be watched, but all agreed that we need to use “teachable moments,” talking with our girls and helping them reflect on behavior they see on TV and whether it’s acceptable.

 

Where the Boys Are

 

Temysmom identified a situation in which a girl who has a lot of friends who are boys (as distinct from “boyfriends”) can find herself the target of other girls’ jealousy. Molly of GO MOM! acknowledged the importance of “teaching my daughter to know when something isn’t about her, but it’s the other person’s issue…that, I’m not looking forward to… (it’s) complicated even for grown-ups who just want to get along.”

 

Dr. G wondered if having older brothers helps with girls’ confidence at this age. Molly of GO MOM! acknowledged that it might, noting that older brothers can be both supportive and protective, particularly if there’s an age gap.

 

Rachel Simmons was asked, “If you could teach boys one lesson about girl culture and how to change it, what would that be?” Her thoughtful response was, “I would teach them about the pressures of masculinity and how it affects the way they interact with girls. That way, they could not only help girls, but understand the role society plays in shaping some of their behavior.”

 

Unholy Trinities and Other Hazards of Girlhood

 

Jenna and several moms observed that, even into adulthood, groups of three girls or women can be complicated, with someone often feeling left out.

 

Rachel Simmons offered that “some things you can do with your daughter include letting her know that it’s not her fault, and that it’s hard for everyone in threes…” She noted that role playing with our daughters can be really helpful in teaching them to articulate their feelings and needs.

 

Emily of Mommin’ It Up pondered whether we send messages to girls that mean-girl drama is a self-fulfilling prophecy or a way of life. Several people agreed, that through portrayals in the media, and sometimes our own behavior (like gossip), we do.

 

Rachel had this to say: “We live in a culture that doesn’t take female aggression as seriously as male aggression. There are many reasons for that – in part, it makes women appear less threatening, and it also makes it harder to take them seriously.”

 

And when you find out your daughter IS the mean girl? Molly of GO MOM! counseled, “Go straight to the source ~ kids aren’t inherently mean so I’d want to do all I could to find out what kind of situation could provoke that kind of response.”

 

Jenna of A Mom’s Balancing Act added, “We’d definitely be discussing how we treat others and the way she would want to be treated. Also taking a look at who she is hanging around, as well as what other factors might be contributing to her behavior.”

 

Sandy M. asked the panel at what age girls outgrow mean-girl behavior, if ever. Rachel cited recent research that suggests that mean-girl behavior is “like any other behavior your child displays: if you don’t weigh in and say “no,” the tacit message is, “go right ahead.”

 

One reason why we have so many aggressive girls is that mothers don’t always take it seriously when their daughters start saying things like, “You can’t come to my birthday party if you don’t give me that toy.” Rachel Simmons allowed that for some girls, being mean is a developmental phase that they do outgrow.

 

The Struggle All Girls Have

 

Emily McKhann wondered if there were particular themes that consistently arise in Girls Leadership Institute gatherings. Rachel Simmons responded that, in girls around second and third grade,”they are just coming into the sophistication of group divisions and how that can be manipulated both to deal with (their) own feelings and raise (their) social status.”

 

She went on to say, “One struggle girls — indeed, all women, have — is that no matter how carefully you try to assert yourself, people think you are being ‘mean.’ This has been observed in women who ask for pay raises, and girls who try to lead. I also think another issue that plagues girls’ leadership is that so many girls are taught to be friends with everyone. It is the one relationship they are told is primary. That makes it awfully hard to have colleagues, subordinates, etc. — and therefore challenging to have to invoke leadership skills. If you’re supposed to be liked by all, how can you assert yourself? That’s why I think it’s so crucial for girls to learn early that not everything is personal, and not everyone is your friend — and that’s okay!”

 

That, I think, is a lesson all daughters could stand to learn. Even (or especially) when they have daughters of their own.

 

More Good Reads on Empowering Girls:

 

Rachel’s website: http://www.rachelsimmons.com/

 

Molly: Why Are Girls (And Women) So Mean? http://www.gomominc.com/why-are-girls-and-women-so-mean

 

Emily: On Raising Daughters
http://momminitup.com/daughters/on-raising-girls/

 

Jill: Mean Girls Suck
http://thediaperdiaries.net/mean-girls-suck/

 

Jenna: Raising Confident Daughters
http://www.momsbalancingact.com/2012/01/raising-confident-daughters-live-talk.html

 

Packaging Girlhood by Sharon Lamb and Lyn Mikel Brown: http://www.packaginggirlhood.com/index.html

 

Enlightened Sexism by Susan Douglas: http://www.susanjdouglas.com/

 

 

Filed Under: Research & Insights Tagged With: Author, community, Live Talks, parenting, Rachel Simmons, raising girls

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