Great Ideas for Father’s Day Gifts

June 14, 2011 by The Motherhood

On June 14, 2011, women flocked to TheMotherhood to swap Father’s Day gift ideas and get inspiration from the ladies at Cool Mom Picks, http://www.coolmompicks.com.

See below for a handy gift guide compiled from the discussion!

Cool Mom Picks Gift Guide

Cool Mom Picks’ complete Father’s Day Guide: http://www.coolmompicks.com/fathers_day_gifts/

Get the Kids Involved

Don’t forget to get the kids involved – photo gifts are always awesome. Huge fans of Shutterfly.com and they’ve got a few last minute deals going on now. (Cool Mom Picks)

http://www.tikatok.com – you can make a book with your kids’ art and print it out for him. (Cool Mom Picks)

Father’s Day printable, “All About My Dad.” Very simple but you could interview younger kids or let older ones fill it out themselves: http://allisonwaken.squarespace.com/allison-wakens-blog/2011/6/7/free-fathers-day-printable.html (christinaref)

Technology Gifts

A cool iPhone holder for running/working out is always fun. I also love CaseMate cases – you can get a team logo, or your own design on an iPhone case. (CoolMomPicks)

I’d say if you have kids an Otter Box for the iPhone is awesome. I love it and it keeps my phone safe! (Momofthreeunder)

Really good earphones would be awesome – BOSE makes some that have different adapters so they stay in his ears. Always a pain when you work out and your earphones are falling out! http://www.coolmomtech.com/2010/12/best_buy_wish_list_more_mobile.php (Cool Mom Picks)

And don’t forget the amazing Bagis earphones that changed my life! You can get them at Nordstrom in a lot of manly colors. http://www.coolmomtech.com/2011/05/the_earphones_that_changed_my.php (Delilah D)

We just covered this spy pen: http://www.coolmomtech.com/2011/06/give_and_let_spy.php I love that it looks like an expensive pen but has a techy edge! (Delilah D)

It’s not cheap – but projectors are “hot” in tech right now: http://www.3m.com/shootnshare/ (Cool Mom Picks)

EyeFi card: http://www.coolmomtech.com/2010/11/share_holiday_memories_eye-fi.php (superdumb)

And for the gamer who has everything…

Search Etsy for Pacman or Mario. They have handmade soap that looks just like an old NES controller. Here it is: http://www.etsy.com/listing/68073983/soap-invented-by-digitalsoaps-retro (Delilah D)

Unique DIY Ideas

Instagram magnets: http://www.coolmomtech.com/2011/06/diy_instagram_magnets.php So cute and easy. And won’t clog his desk like a framed photo. (Delilah D)

You could probably DIY this handprint tree – it’s so cute! http://www.coolmompicks.com/2011/06/fathers_day_gifts_made_from_childrens_artwork.php (Cool Mom Picks)

You can also do handprints on a t-shirt or apron. Hands can become trees, flowers, horses… (Delilah D)

We made this “snack box” for my husband last year and he thought it was really cool – my kids loved helping to shop for the treats he could bring to the office. http://alphamom.com/family-fun/holidays/diy-fathers-day-gift-superhero-craft/ (christinaref)

Take a glass beer stein and fill it nearly to the top with Werther’s candies (or any kind of candy with a gold-ish colored wrapper) and then top it off with some large white marshmallows!! Instant beer! (Kady)

Customized beer labels! Get him a six pack and make labels! http://www.etsy.com/shop/girlingearstudio?section_id=7821130 (Cool Mom Picks)

What about a bag of a nice expensive brand of coffee and a personalized cup with photos of the kids from Shutterfly? (Jennifer)

You can always go to one of those paint-your-own pottery places and do tiny hand or footprints on a plate or mug. (Delilah D)

Also, a few pics of baby “holding” signs that say “I” “LOVE” “YOU” – also cute. (Cool Mom Picks)

Foodie Goodies

There are some crazy cool BBQ Thermometers. http://www.coolmompicks.com/2011/06/fathers_day_gifts_for_the_gourmet.php (Cool Mom Picks)

Gourmet tasting box: http://www.coolmompicks.com/2010/10/foodzie_gourmet_tastting_box.php (Cool Mom Picks)

Here are a couple sugar-free gourmet treats from Vosges that look amazing: http://www.vosgeschocolate.com/category/vosges-sugear-free-gourmet-chocolate (Delilah D)

My husband recently made his own protein bars on this site: http://www.youbars.com/ You can go almost sugar-free, and they help you perfect the recipe. (Delilah D)

Bacon chocolate: http://www.vosgeschocolate.com/product/bacon_bar_and_beer/all_bacon_chocolate (Delilah D)

For the Fitness or Outdoors Nut

My husband LOVES books on scientifically based fitness and diet regimens. He reads The Four Hour Body like it’s a newspaper. Constantly. http://www.amazon.com/4-Hour-Body-Uncommon-Incredible-Superhuman/dp/030746363X/ref=comopi-20 (Delilah D)

We had a bunch of questions for dads who are into fitness:
Http://www.yurbuds.com – very cool. Garmin watch always a hit! (Cool Mom Picks)

Let him loose in REI, Bass Pro Shop or Gander Mountain. (Cool Mom Picks, Julie B., Momofthreeunder)

For lots of camping ideas: http://uncrate.com/search/camping/ (Cool Mom Picks)

Maybe plan a family camping trip? Even with some friends who have kids…if your husband would be into that! (aMomKnowsBest)

Experiential Gifts

What about experiential gifts? Tickets to a baseball game? A bottle of wine and a date for a wine tasting? (ErinO)

Check out Giftybox for some ideas too: http://www.coolmompicks.com/2009/06/fathers_day_awesomeness.php (christinaref)

I just took my husband ziplining. He LOVED it. And you can turn it into an overnight trip, too. (Delilah D)

We love hockey – so at Christmas we do a family hockey game. My sons do a birthday baseball game every year w/ my parents too. I think gifts of spending time together enjoying a favorite activity are great – just be sure to take pics! (Jen276here)

Groupon had a great local golf deal at a course he has never played. Two for one so he can go with our son. (robin)

What about a family picnic? Where you two and the little one can take a walk, have lunch and depending on your little one’s age, play some games? (jen276here)

We always go to the zoo on Father’s Day! (Julie B.)

Final Thoughts

The Etsy Main Page has some great Father’s Day gifts right now: http://www.etsy.com – cool last minute tip, search “LOCAL” and find a shop near you. Then you can arrange for pick up from the artisan. (Cool Mom Picks)

THANK YOU to the amazing women at Cool Mom Picks, our co-hosts, and everyone who participated in the Talk! Enjoy your Father’s Day weekend!

See the original Talk here: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62225

The Science of Play

June 8, 2011 by The Motherhood

On June 8, 2011, moms came to TheMotherhood to chat with Susan Magsamen, Director of Interdisciplinary Programs at the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine and Co-Developer of the Neuro-Education Initiative in the School of Education, about her work with play and education and her new book, The Classic Treasury of Childhood Wonders.

Hosting the Talk with Susan was Michael Sarbanes, Executive Director of Partnerships, Communications, and Community Engagement at Baltimore City Schools.

Susan and Michael chatted with the group about the benefits of play and family activities.

“There is a growing body of research about play from a range of fields – psychology, neuroscience, cognitive science, education, etc. This work is really helping to shape parenting skills, education and other places where our kids are,” Susan said. “In the fall we are launching a site for folks interested in the research of learning called L-rn.com. I am hoping all of you will be a part of it.”

Read on for more highlights!

How can you help your kids succeed?

“Parents are always asking me what they can do to help their children be successful in school and in life,” Susan acknowledged. “The answer is simple – play. We know that play is how children learn essential social and emotional skills that they need to learn to read, understand math and science and engage creatively in the world.”

Jo-Lynne Shane, Musings of a Housewife, voiced a concern echoed by others: “Uh oh. I’m so not a player with my kids. I look forward to hearing your suggestions!”

“So many moms aren’t!” Emily McKhann, TheMotherhood, reassured. “We hear that all the time in TheMotherhood. Life is super busy and there is so much to get done on any given day.”

“There is no limit to play. Think about all of the very successful people that play every day. They imagine, explore, create, take risks – sounds like fun to me,” said Susan. “But perhaps we have forgotten and also, with the best intentions, replaced play with tests, sitting in chairs and overscheduled activities. I think this is the right intention and the wrong answer.”

Overscheduling

When it comes to play and learning, allowing kids ample free time to let their imaginations run wild is key. Scheduling one activity or lesson after another saps children’s energy – factor in schoolwork, and you have an overly packed schedule!

“As my kids get older, I see this more and more! School and homework alone keep us so busy!” said Melissa Angert, Girlymama.

“We try to find that balance too!” agreed Tammy Berbells, Tammy’s Two Cents. “It’s hard because you want them to participate in things that interest them. We are learning as we go.”

“Agreed. It is a major problem,” said Susan. “There is research that suggests that kids are significantly more productive after a vacation. Think about that for adults. You rest, play, reconnect to your support systems. Makes so much sense.”

Summer play

When school is out for the summer and there’s no homework to be done, kids have more time to use their imaginations and enjoy playtime. The group had some wonderful suggestions for summer play.

“Summer learning is so important, and play is the perfect way to really engage kids in meaningful and fun experiences,” said Susan. “When children are playing they are doing so many important things – creative expression, problem solving, collaborating, gaining knowledge and also, very importantly, learning how to communicate with others.”

“Outdoor play is fantastic for kids anytime of the year,” added R Golinkoff. “Not only do they get to use their bodies but they get to explore and play with other kids. There are many local parks within walking distance that Moms can use to turn their kids loose. Just add sunscreen!”

“I love playing hide and seek with my two kiddos (4 and 6),” said Aracely Worley, Daytripping Mom. “It’s a classic game and the kids love it. We also play tag. Many of the same games that we played when we were kids.”

For a different take on hide and seek, Tammy Berbells at Tammy’s Two Cents said, “One activity we do as a family that is fun and educational is geocaching! The kids are learning about GPS coordinates and using their brains thinking about where the treasure might be. If is a great family fun activity!”

“The Dragon Hunt activity in Susan’s book (my daughter’s favorite) is like a no-cost lowtech geocaching. She loves it,” said Michael Sarbanes.

Susan elaborated, “In the book we have a dragon hunt where you make a map for your child and they have to find the dragon.” She added a few suggestions of her own: “Daydreaming is really fun and so is looking for fireflies – if you have them. Think about things you can do in the car too.”

Gardening was a popular outdoor family activity. “We have a big family garden in our backyard, the kids love to help with it. They look so forward to it every year,” said Cheryl Budge, The Budge Bunch. “They have learned so much from talking about it, and picking everything out. They don’t even realize it!”

“This year we planted a pizza garden,” added Emily McKhann, TheMotherhood. “Of course, it’s round and has lots of tomatoes, basil and other veggies. The kids thought it was hilarious that we were planting everything in a big circle.”

Aracely Worley, Daytripping Mom, also suggested visiting “our local children’s museum. They are great resources and provide plenty of opportunities for play.” She also noted that “one of our favorite activities in the summer is heading to our local beach or lake. We build sand castles, collect seashells and play in the water.”

“Children’s museums are a great resource,” Susan agreed. “We worked with several over the last year to launch the Ultimate Block Party. This is a day event that brings the science of learning and play together. Our first was in New York and we had over 75,000 people. Last weekend we hosted one in Toronto. In the fall we will have on in Baltimore.” Check out www.ultimateblockparty.com to learn more!

Added Michael, “Childhood Wonders and the Block Party fit into a broader strategy to really empower parents – it also includes building a strong parent-child connection, learning at home, connecting with school, tapping into community resources, and celebrating!”

About the book

“The Childhood Wonders book is chock full of ideas for parents to do in everyday moments that reinforce natural curiosity and a child’s love of learning,” said Susan. “We have incorporated the 6 Cs – a developmental essential skills model in every activity.”

Susan added that the book “was created with hundreds of families – sharing their childhood memories. We added the development lens to help make everyday moments learning moments too.”

“I love this concept!” said Anjanette Barr, Raising the Barrs. “I draw frequently from the activities I remember enjoying most as a child. I frequently ask my mom if she remembers the way we did this or that.”

“So, building on favorite pastimes and layering in what researchers know about childhood development? That’s incredibly cool,” agreed Emily McKhann, TheMotherhood.

“Baltimore City Schools is providing copies of Susan’s book Childhood Wonders to all our pre-K students next week,” said Michael Sarbanes. “We will be doing workshops with parents at our public libraries during the summer to help introduce/reinforce the notion that family time can be incredibly powerful learning time. We also are providing a DVD of the readings and activities in the book so that parents can see and use the book, regardless of reading level.”

“Baltimore City School’s Family Institute is creating such an engaging model for families,” said Susan. “The idea of beginning to get families information, ideas and best practices – through a series of programs and tools to help inform, inspire and engage kids – is very exciting.”

THANK YOU to Susan Magsamen, Michael Sarbanes and our wonderful co-hosts!

Anjanette, Raising the Barrs
Aracely, Daytripping Mom

Cheryl, The Budge Bunch
Melissa, Girlymama
Shannon, The Mommy Files
Tammy, Tammy’s Two Cents

See the original Talk here: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62218

Recipe Swap and Tips for Cooking and Baking Delicious Allergen-Free Foods

May 10, 2011 by The Motherhood

On May 10, 2011, in honor of Food Allergy Awareness Week, moms gathered to trade allergen-free recipes and talk about cooking to accommodate food allergies.

“Eating and celebrating should always be an inclusive, shared experience…not exclusive only to those who do not have food allergies/dietary restrictions!” said host Lori Sander, founder of Divvies Bakery and author of The Divvies Bakery Cookbook.

And having allergies doesn’t mean restricting your exposure to new, allergen-safe foods, either. “I add a new food item a week to my diet,” said Sloane Miller, Allergic Girl. “Either recipe, new variety of fruit or vegetable or new treat (like safe cookies/cakes). I do this safely with the assistance of a knowledgeable RD (eatright.org) and/or board certified allergist (aaaai.org, acaai.org).”

Continue reading for a virtual cookbook of allergen-free recipes!

PLEASE NOTE: Recipes will vary in terms of which of the 8 most common allergens are eliminated.

Advice for cooking for food allergies

“When planning celebrations, planning ahead and choosing a recipe that will appeal and be safe for everyone is key!” said Lori Sandler, Divvies.

“I find that it is essential to also find out if the people have issues with cross-contamination,” added Alisa Fleming, Go Dairy Free. “My kitchen isn’t safe for, say, severe gluten issues, since I do use both gluten-free and wheat flours in it (dust can be an issue for some!), so I make sure any guests with severe allergy concerns have a hand in food preparation (from their own safe kitchen) if needed.”

“Talk with your board certified allergist about what you can’t eat but also what you can!” said Sloane Miller, Allergic Girl. “Post your allergy action plan in your kitchen for easy access. Also save it on to your or your child’s smart phone (as a PDF) for easy access on the go.”

Breakfast options

Coffee Cake: http://www.chicagoparent.com/recipes/nut-free-cinnamon-streusel-sour-cream-coffee-cake (from Jenny Kales, Nut Free Mom)

Dairy/egg/nut free Banana Chocolate Chip Muffins: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62182/view/single/post/491373 (from Jennifer)

Wheat free Banana Mini Muffins: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62182/view/single/post/491430 (from Willing Cook)

Cranberry Orange Scones: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62182/view/single/post/491395 (from Colette Martin)

Egg/dairy/nut free Banana Pancakes: http://allergickid.blogspot.com/2010/09/challengeand-banana-pancakes.html (from Libby, The Allergic Kid)

Nut free Doughnuts: http://nut-freemom.blogspot.com/2011/05/peanut-allergy-safe-doughnuts-youve-got.html (from Jenny Kales, Nut Free Mom)

Dairy/egg/nut free Donuts: http://www.speedbumpkitchen.com/2011/03/paczi-for-all.html (from Meg-Speedbump)

Raisin Bread: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62182/view/single/post/491456 (from GidgetKat)

Gluten free Vegan Baked Cake Donuts: http://www.cybelepascal.com/?p=1718

Appetizer options

Chickpea/sesame free Hummus: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62182/view/single/post/491331 (from Debra Finkel)

Gluten/soy free Chinese Dumplings: http://www.jeanetteshealthyliving.com/2011/04/gluten-free-recipe-for-chinese.html (from Jeanette)

Dairy/soy free Roasted Artichoke Garlic Spread (good substitute for mayonnaise): http://www.jeanetteshealthyliving.com/2011/04/warm-roasted-garlic-and-artichoke.html (from Jeanette)

Dairy free Creamy Soup recipes: http://www.jeanetteshealthyliving.com/2011/03/collection-of-pureed-soups-curried.html (from Jeanette)

Minestrone Soup: http://on.fb.me/divviesminestrone (from Lori Sandler)

Dinner options

Turkey Tacos: http://bklynallergymom.wordpress.com/2011/03/05/allergy-free-turkey-tacos/ (from Heidi Bayer, Brooklyn Allergy Mom)

Divvies Really Delicious and Simple Chicken Dish: https://www.facebook.com/notes/divvies-bakery-divvies-bakery-cookbook/recipe-divvies-simple-delicious-chicken/195891023789294 (from Lori Sander)

Boar’s Head (Top-8 Free) EverRoast Chicken Breast & Golden Raisin Quinoa Pilaf: http://allergicgirl.blogspot.com/2011/05/boars-head-allergic-girl-recipe.html (from Sloane Miller, Allergic Girl)

Pizza: http://www.learningtoeatallergyfree.com/2011/03/new-twist-on-pizza-inspired-by-fellow.html (from Colette Martin)

Bolognese Sauce: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62182/view/single/post/491352 (from Jenny Kales, Nut Free Mom)

Lamb Stew: http://bklynallergymom.wordpress.com/2011/01/25/allergy-free-lamb-stew-recipe/ (from Heidi Bayer, Brooklyn Allergy Mom)

Top-8 free Batter for Chicken, Fish or Vegetables: http://willingcook.com/here-fishy-fishy/ (from Willing Cook)

Wheat/dairy/nut/peanut free Moroccan Meatball Stew: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62182/view/single/post/491386

Egg free Meatloaf: http://www.thismamacooks.com/2010/09/boulder-firefighters-meatloaf.html (from Anne-Marie Nichols, The Write Spot)

Pasta Sauce with Basil and Stuffed Peppers: http://nut-freemom.blogspot.com/2010/07/nut-free-food-allergy-friendly-summer.html (from Jenny Kales, Nut Free Mom)

Basil and Marinated Artichoke Pesto: http://allergickid.blogspot.com/2008/07/basil-marinated-artichoke-pesto.html (from Libby, The Allergic Kid)

Side dish options

Dairy/wheat/egg/peanut/nut free Mashed Potatoes: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62182/view/single/post/491369 (from Emily Paster, West of the Loop)

Top-8/gluten free Mac n’ Cheese: http://www.cybelepascal.com/?p=2723 (Cybele Pascal)

Irish Soda Bread: http://nut-freemom.blogspot.com/2011/03/peanut-allergy-friendly-nut-free-irish.html (from Jenny Kales, Nut Free Mom)

Dairy/egg free bread: http://www.speedbumpkitchen.com/2008/10/mission-bread-by-noon.html (Meg-Speedbump)

Cheese free Risotto: http://www.thismamacooks.com/tag/rice-cooker (from Anne-Marie Nichols, The Write Spot)

Desserts

Divvies Brownie Recipe: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62182/view/single/post/491340 (from Lori Sandler)

Watch Lori make her brownies on the CBS Early Show!

Double Chocolate Brownie Bites: http://allergickid.blogspot.com/2011/01/double-chocolate-brownie-bites.html (from Libby, The Allergic Kid)

Classic Crumb Cake: http://www.cybelepascal.com/?p=2768 (from Cybele Pascal)

Nut-free “Nutella”: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62182/view/single/post/491317 (from Jenny Kales, Nut Free Mom)

“And for those allergic to Sunbutter (sunflower), you can substitute Soy Butter, Pea Butter or something that works for your needs” in the Nutella recipe, suggested Aly AllerDine.

Nut-free alternative to Easy Bake Oven mixes: http://www.chicagoparent.com/recipes/nut-free-easy-bake-oven-mix (from Jenny Kales, Nut Free Mom)

“That’s genius! What a thoughtful way to make that toy available to all little kids,” said Libby, The Allergic Kid.

Dairy/egg/sugar free raspberry mousse: http://www.thismamacooks.com/2011/03/no-dairy-no-eggs-and-no-sugar-raspberry-mousse.html (from Anne-Marie Nichols, The Write Spot)

Divvies Chocolate Covered Strawberries: http://on.fb.me/divviesstrawberries (from Lori Sandler)

Oh! Fudge: http://www.divvies.com/images/cookbook/OhFudgetRecipe.png (from Lori Sandler)

Gluten/dairy/egg free Coconut Pineapple Scone: http://www.jeanetteshealthyliving.com/2011/05/glutendairyegg-free-coconut-pineapple.html (from Jeanette)

Pies

Divvies Quick and Easy Apple Pie: https://www.facebook.com/notes/divvies-bakery-divvies-bakery-cookbook/recipe-divvies-quick-easy-apple-pie-from-the-divvies-bakery-cookbook/195895503788846 (from Lori Sandler)

Allergy-Free Boston Cream Pie: http://www.foodallergy.org/page/allergy-free-boston-cream-pie (from Cybele Pascal)

Cakes

Wacky Cake, “free of dairy and eggs due to the rationing of butter and eggs in the Depression era”: http://www.kidswithfoodallergies.org/featured_recipe5.php (from Felicia Carter, Go Graham Go)

Dairy/soy free Cheesecake: http://www.cookingwithoutingredients.com/cheesecake.htm

Chocolate Cake with Mega Chunks and Buttercream Frosting: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62182/view/single/post/491325 (from From Heidi Bayer, Brooklyn Allergy Mom)

Divvies Chocolate Cupcakes: http://www.marthastewart.com/255869/divvies-chocolate-cupcakes (from Lori Sandler)

Divvies Vanilla Frosting: http://www.marthastewart.com/254510/divvies-vanilla-frosting (from Lori Sandler)

If you go to my site www.cornerofmyworld.com/cupcake you will see some really cool ideas on how to decorate our Divvie’s cakes and cupcakes. (Lisa Staffieri)

Top-8 and gluten free Red Velvet Cake: http://www.cybelepascal.com/?p=1988 (from Cybele Pascal)

Ice Cream

Egg/dairy/nut free Bubblegum Ice Cream: http://www.speedbumpkitchen.com/2010/04/double-dessert.html

Superman Ice Cream: http://www.speedbumpkitchen.com/2010/07/superman-ice-cream.html

Dairy free Soft Serve/Smoothie, also good with SunButter for those with nut allergies: http://www.onefrugalfoodie.com/2010/06/15/peanut-butter-smoothie/ (from Alisa Fleming, Go Dairy Free)

Cookies

Gluten/dairy/egg/soy free Quinoa Chocolate Chip Cookies: http://www.jeanetteshealthyliving.com/2011/05/glutendairyeggsoy-free-vegan-quinoa.html (from Jeanette)

Egg free Pumpkin Cookies (can be gluten-free by substituting gluten-free flour mix): http://www.thismamacooks.com/2010/11/an-egg-free-chocolate-chip-pumpkin-cookie.html (from Anne-Marie Nichols, The Write Spot)

Chocolate Explosion Oatmeal Cookies: http://www.alisacooks.com/2010/07/23/chocolate-oatmeal-cookies/ (from Alisa Fleming)

Egg/peanut free Sugar Cookies: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62182/view/single/post/491410 (from Gabrielle)

Dairy/egg free Divvies Cut-Out Sugar Cookies: https://www.facebook.com/note.php?created&&note_id=195882950456768&id=111702808852602#!/note.php?note_id=188653434513053 (from Lori Sandler)

Holiday desserts

Nut/peanut/egg free Swedish gingersnap: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62182/view/single/post/491316 (from Emily Paster, West of the Loop)

Wheat/dairy/nut/peanut free Chocolate Mint Meringues Kisses: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62182/view/single/post/491330 (from Emily Paster, West of the Loop

Nut free Snowball Cookie: http://www.chicagoparent.com/recipes/snowballs (from Jenny Kales, Nut Free Mom)

Chocolate Crinkles: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62182/view/single/post/491393 (from Kristen)

Snack options

Gluten/oat/casein/soy free “Clif” Granola Bars: http://www.jeanetteshealthyliving.com/2011/03/glutenoatcaseinsoy-free-clif-granola.html (from Jeanette)

Favorite Products for Cooking at Home

In addition to sharing recipes, the group discussed their favorite allergen-free products for cooking or baking at home.

“I could not live without Fleischmann’s unsalted dairy-free margarine, plain soy milk and allergy-free chocolate chips from Divvies or Enjoy Life,” said Emily Paster, West of the Loop.

Jeanette added, “I use So Delicious Coconut Milk (dairy/soy/nut free) and coconut oil (dairy/soy free). I love Enjoy Life chocolate chips (dairy/soy free)!”

“Vermont Nut-Free Chocolate has a great nut-free baking line,” noted Jenny Kales, Nut Free Mom. “Of course Divvies is delish for egg, dairy and nut allergies. I also use Nielsen-Massey Vanilla extract. Safe for nut allergies – facility is nut-free.”

“Non-dairy yogurt is one of my favorite ingredients,” said Libby, The Allergic Kid. “It has a nice tang & bulk for replacing eggs & dairy products. Ground flax, especially mixed with hemp milk if I want to make a ‘nutty’ flavor, is another one.”

“I love having lots of solid fat options available for experiments,” added Meg, Speedbump Kitchen. She suggested “Fleischmann’s unsalted margarine, a big tub of coconut oil (from Amazon), Crisco shortening sticks, butter flavored Crisco shortening sticks (yes, dairy-free), Spectrum non-hydrogenated shortening (pricey, but nice to work with).”

And looking on the bright side, “the nice thing about having an egg allergy is that eating the batter won’t give you salmonella!” said Aly Allerdine. “I like to substitute eggs in normal recipes by using various ingredients: apple sauce, banana, corn starch or Ener-G Egg replacer.”

“I also like to make egg replacer with flax seed meal,” added Colette Martin. “Grind down flax seeds or use the meal. Mix 1 tbsp flaxseed meal with 3 tbsp warm water for each egg. Mix and let sit for about five minutes until it gels.”

Dining out

When it comes to food allergies, dining out can be a tricky and often dangerous proposition.

“I think the restaurant industry really needs more awareness and training. I know how to read labels in stores to keep my daughter safe, but dining out remains our biggest challenge,” said Emily Paster, West of the Loop.

Agreed Suzanne, “I’ve found that with my tomato allergy – um, just plucking them off a pre-prepared salad doesn’t cut if folks! And that happens MOST of the time, even when I explain to the waiter. My experiences make me fear for my son with his more severe allergy.”

AllerDine is one excellent resource for finding restaurants that cater to people with food allergies: http://www.AllerDine.com

AllerDine restaurant toolkit: http://allerdine.com/toolkit.php

AllerDine on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/pages/AllerDinecom/190364131380

Allergic Girl’s tips for dining out are in the new U.S. issue of Allergic Living: http://www.allergicliving.com

Other Resources

MSNBC report on food allergies, featuring Nicole Smith, Allergic Child: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21134540/vp/42949676#42937966

Recipe index from Libby, The Allergic Kid: http://allergickid.blogspot.com/p/recipes.html (All of the recipes are peanut, tree nut, egg, dairy, shellfish and red meat free. I’ve also notated on the index which ones are gluten free, vegan or gf or vegan adaptable)

Cybele Pascal, Allergen-Free Cuisine (posts a new allergy-free recipe every week): http://www.cybelepascal.com

Free monthly newsletter from Nicole Smith, Allergic Child: http://www.allergicchild.com/newsletter.htm

Cookbooks

The Divvies Bakery Cookbook by Lori Sandler: http://www.divvies.com/cookbook.php

Allergen-Free Baker’s Handbook by Cybele Pascal: http://amzn.to/jsH2XX

Food Allergies For Dummies by Robert A. Wood MD, Joe Kraynak: http://amzn.to/jcq6iq

Ten recipe e-book – in honor of Food Allergy Awareness Week, you can download Colette Martin’s Allergen-Free Holiday Cookbook, which contains ten recipes free of the top eight allergens and gluten, free on Smashwords. Use coupon code VP36S: http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/27640

Allergic Girl by Sloane Miller: http://amzn.to/AllergicGirl

Food Allergy Mama’s Baking Book by Kelly Rudnicki: http://www.foodallergymama.com/baking-book-cookbook/

Thank you to our fabulous host, Lori Sandler, and to all of our amazing co-hosts!!!

Nicole Smith, Allergic Child

Kelly Whalen, Centsible Life

Alisa Fleming, Go Dairy Free

Libby, The Allergic Kid

Anne-Marie Nichols, The Write Spot

Emily Paster, West of the Loop

Jodi Grundig, Mom’s Favorite Stuff

Eleanor Garrow, Food Allergy and Anaphylaxis Network

Sloane Miller, Allergic Girl

Clarissa Nassar, The POSHpreneur

Cybele Pascal, Allergen-Free Cuisine

Caryn Bailey, Rockin’ Mama

Jenny Kales, Nut Free Mom

Aly, AllerDine

Heidi Bayer, Brooklyn Allergy Mom

Meg, Speedbump Kitchen

Carmen Staicer, Mom to the Screaming Masses

See the original Talk here: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62182

Global Mamas Who Inspire Us with the ONE Campaign and Every Mother Counts

May 5, 2011 by The Motherhood

On May 5, 2011, caring moms came to TheMotherhood to talk about mothers and children in developing countries and the ways in which we can help improve their health and lives.

As mothersacting up noted, “If we can empower mothers here in the U.S. to be partners with mothers around the world, our children will inherit a much better planet.”

The conversation was both powerful and emotional, and it laid out a number of simple ideas for making a difference in the lives of women half a world away. Read on for the highlights, or click here to read the whole discussion!

What is the ONE Campaign?

ONE is a grassroots advocacy and campaigning organization that fights extreme poverty and preventable disease, particularly in Africa, by raising public awareness and pressuring political leaders to support smart and effective policies and programs that are saving lives, helping to put kids in school and improving futures. Cofounded by Bono and other campaigners, ONE is nonpartisan and works closely with African activists and policy makers.

“ONE and Every Mother Counts are all about raising your voice as a way to speak for those who aren’t heard,” said Lauren Balog. “And who better to do that than moms? All moms can make a difference: First Ladys and supermodels on down!”

Former First Lady Laura Bush worked with ONE to create a special message for Mother’s Day, promoting the well-being of mothers and children around the world.

Watch the video here.

Visit ONE.org to learn more.

What is Every Woman Counts?

Begun by supermodel Christy Turlington, Every Mother Counts is an advocacy and mobilization campaign to increase education and support for maternal and child health.

According to Erin Thornton, executive director of Every Mother Counts, “We’re trying to bring awareness (primarily to the mom community of the U.S.) about the issue of maternal health, but then give them tools to learn more AND opportunities to get directly involved. We have a bunch of efforts launched right now where you as an individual can bring whatever tool you have to bear – whether that be your voice, your time or your money. It’s really about becoming aware and feeling empowered and equipped to get involved.”

Every Mother Counts just launched this public service announcement as part of a campaign focused solely on maternal health “to give people ways to learn more, get involved and make a real difference,” said Erin Thornton.

Watch the PSA here.

Visit everymothercounts.org to learn more.

No Woman, No Cry

Christy Turlington’s film, “No Woman, No Cry,” airs on the Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN) May 7 at 9:30pm ET/PT, and again on May 8 at 1pm ET/PT.

Watch the trailer here.

“It is exquisitely done. You will love it, everyone. And it will change you,” said Chrysula.

“I can’t imagine what it’s like to be pregnant where there’s a lack of medical care,” said Connie Roberts, Brain Foggles. “So scary for Mom and baby.”

“We’re also encouraging folks to host watch parties this weekend – and have a kit of discussions points, etc, available if you do,” said Erin Thornton. “It’s the sort of topic it’s better to discuss with friends and family than to watch and then click it off.”

If you’d like to host a watch party, find more information here: http://everymothercounts.org/host-watch-party

U.S. moms and global issues

Do moms in America make an effort to get involved in global issues? Yes.

“Especially with Millennial moms,” said Elisa. “Very passionate about the WORLD. However,” she acknowledged, “put a baby in our arms and we tend to look down more than out.”

“It’s been an incredible reaction – people want to learn more, want to do something,” said Erin Thornton. But “polls right now say that of all the development goals, Americans rate maternal health as ‘least’ important. So we’re out to prove that wrong!”

Erin added, “We can’t let this be a ‘woman’s’ issue – it’s a family issue. The interview that STILL makes me tear up in the film (even after watching 80 times) is an interview with a father who lost his wife in childbirth. The men are SO impacted by these issues – we have to mainstream it and give them ways to engage too.”

Children’s health

Watch Joyce Kamwana tell her story here.

“Upon learning that she was HIV positive, Joyce went onto become an activist, informing her community about HIV and how to protect yourself and specifically about how women could take steps to ensure that their babies were born HIV free,” said Margaret McDonnell, partnerships manager for the ONE Campaign.

Read Joyce’s story here: http://www.one.org/blog/2010/11/30/hiv-positive-grandmother-credits-her-life-to-global-fund/

Margaret added, “Sadly, 1,000 babies are born HIV positive every day, but with medicine the risk of HIV-positive mothers passing the disease onto their babies lowers to less than 2%!” said Margaret McDonnell.

“Mothers play an important role,” added gottalovemom. “I know it from dealing with the poor families in the Philippines. If Mothers are involved, the kids can have a chance!”

Maternal health

“There is so much more we need to be doing to serve pregnant mothers, mothers who are delivering or have just delivered, and moms in the early years of parenting,” said Katherine Stone. “People don’t realize how much a mother’s health can affect the long-term health of her child(ren). When we take care of moms we are taking care of families too. It’s such a good investment.”

“Maternal health is not an ‘over there’ problem,” agreed Erin Thornton. “It affects all of us. Even here in the US – we rank 50th in the world in terms of maternal care.”
Find “The Best and Worst Places to be a Mother” here: http://one.org/blog/?p=29984

Learn about Maternal & Child Health from ONE.org: http://www.one.org/c/us/issue/15/

What you can do to help through The ONE Campaign

“There are so many ways to help out and so easy too!” said Renee Ross, Cutie Booty Cakes.

“Moms have the power to also engage their kids,” said Rachel. “My kids participate in every ONE event I host in my community. They know the facts as well and share it with their friends who share with their parents. Moms can multiply their voice!”

“Here’s one simple thing you can do to help – click here and sign the petition to help ONE get funding for vaccines to help stop diarrhea and pneumonia … two of the biggest killers of children in poor countries,” said Erin O. “It’s in the yellow box on the right side of the page.”

Sign the petition: http://bit.ly/jRCoEw

Watch the ONE vaccine video here.

“I LOVE knowing that a group of women putting their name to a petition can actually make things happen – live vaccinations for millions of kids who wouldn’t get them otherwise,” said Emily McKhann, TheMotherhood.

“Taking your child to get vaccinated is NOT a fun experience – quite traumatizing actually to hear their first real cry of pain,” acknowledged Margaret McDonnell. “That being said, I’m very appreciative that I’m able to offer my son protection of fatal childhood diseases, like polio, rotavirus, and measles. Women in rural Kenya have to walk miles to the nearest hospital to get their babies the vaccines and healthcare they need.”

“I remember crying when my first one got vaccinated, but also thinking that if that’s going to prevent him from dealing with far worse, so be it,” said rockandrollmama.

Efforts through Every Mother Counts

5-day push through tonic.com to fund a 40-foot container of unused medical equipment and supplies to send to Sudan: http://www.tonic.com/deed/please-commit-10-to-get-life-saving-medical-supplies-to-the-sudan/
Hope Phones to collect your old used cell phones, which can then be recycled and used to equip health workers in the Democratic Republic of Congo with phones to connect them to clinics: http://www.everymothercounts.org/partners/hope-phones

Go to Starbucks and purchase a CD that benefits EMC and CARE. It is guaranteed in stores through Monday, May 9.

Watch this video from the Jubilee Project. For every view, 1 cent is donated to EMC.

Check out Every Mother Counts’ partnership with Amnesty International to write letters to our Congressmen about the Maternal Health Accountability Act, requiring states to at least report on the causes of maternal deaths here in the U.S.: http://www.everymothercounts.org/partners/amnesty-international

Find other ways to take action here: www.everymothercounts.org/take-action

Other efforts

“My company, Birungi Ives Global Media Enterprises supports a Global Movement where we can exercise the power behind our spending to make a beneficial Global Impact with the investment in products and services that do the same,” said Birungi Ives. “In relation to this movement, we have started #thepowerofone campaign. #thepowerofone campaign is a TWITTER campaign that supports people around the world lifting themselves and their communities out of poverty! So please also tweet #thepowerofone.”

Learn more about Birungi and her company here: http://www.geof.us/index.php?id=47

“Moms are a gift from God to be treasured within our hearts. Their unending love embraces our every moment of life. I love you Mom!” concluded Barbara Olivo.

Resources

On Twitter:

Be sure to follow ONE at @ONECampaign

Follow Christy Turlington, Erin Thornton and Every Mother Counts at @CTurlington @ETThornton and @everymomcounts

Watch for updates on the ONE Circle on TheMotherhood: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/circle/show/id/62200

Living Proof on ONE.org: http://one.org/livingproof/en/story/kangaroo-mother-care/

“Another great documentary to check out is Mother: Caring Our Way Out of the Population development,” suggested mothersacting up. Here is a link: http://www.motherthefilm.com/trailer

On ONE.org, “Africa’s Future is Female”: http://one.org/international/reports/africasfuture/index.html

Cooper Munroe of TheMotherhood wrote a guest post for ONE.org. Read it here: http://one.org/blog/2011/05/05/maria-mchele-mwasonge-mother-and-tree-of-life/

Happy Mother’s Day – and remember to make EVERY day Mother’s Day!

See the original Talk here: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62196

Navigating Food Allergies: Advocating for Your Child at School

May 3, 2011 by The Motherhood

On May 3, 2011, parents of children with food allergies came to TheMotherhood to swap ideas and learn how to advocate for a safe school environment for their kids.

The session was hosted by Lori Sandler, founder of Divvies Bakery and author of The Divvies Bakery Cookbook; Gina Clowes, founder of Allergy Moms, www.allergymoms.com; Barbara Rosenstein from the Food Allergy Initiative, www.faiusa.org (the world’s largest private source of funding for food allergy research); and Maria Acebal from The Food Allergy and Anaphylaxis Network, www.foodallergy.org.

Gina Clowes started the discussion by sharing her most popular download, which parents can print and share with teachers. It is called “10 Things Children with Food Allergies Want You to Know”: http://www.allergymoms.com/uploads/newsletters/everychildwish.html

“I have a whole eBook that takes it even further and can help to educate caregivers,” Gina commented, sharing the link: http://www.allergymoms.com/10things.html

Advocating a safe environment for your child

“Communication with the school is so important. Especially if it is a large school,” said Felicia Carter, Go Graham Go. “Keep in mind that most states are facing hug budget cuts which means bigger class sizes. So, now it is more important than ever!”

Lori Sandler suggested, “Approach the school in the spring before the next school year begins. Introduce yourself, schedule meetings with the principal, teachers and school nurse. Introduce your child to his teacher before the school year begins so they may build a rapport.”

Maria Acebal, The Food Allergy and Anaphylaxis Network, added that the key to her daughter’s “continued safety and my sanity has been annual staff training. The Safe@School presentation for educators available through the FAAN website is what I have used for years at my daughter’s own school.” Here is the website: www.foodallergy.org

“This is a great suggestion. A lot of parents don’t realize that when it comes to their child’s allergies, THEY are the experts and can use that knowledge to help the school,” agreed Elizabeth Thielke, A Mommy Story. “Offer to help with training, offer to write up a guide to your child’s allergies, or come speak to your child’s class about food allergies. Be not only an advocate but an educator as well – for schools that have limited budgets and limited resources, offering yourself as a resource could be a huge help to them.”

And for those moments when you encounter unsympathetic administrators and people who don’t understand the seriousness of your child’s food allergy, “I’d recommend the book From Emotions to Advocacy by Pete Wright and that you look at the website www.wrightslaw.com,” said Gina Clowes, Allergy Moms.

Libby, The Allergic Kid, added that winning a safe environment for your child at school might require “polite persistence. Keep moving up the ladder. When I run into a brick wall, I ask, who do I need to see to have this approved? Or, do you have any suggestions for me when I speak to so-and-so (next person up) in order to have this approved?”

“We had our allergist write a letter stating the need for accommodations for our son to safely go to school,” said Nicole Smith. “This began the 504 Plan discussions. He’s in high school now and still has a 504 Plan.”

Putting a 504 plan in place

What is a 504 plan?

“Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973, which is a anti-discrimination law,” explained Thanita. “A student with a disability like food allergies can obtain a 504 plan to keep the child included and have equal access to Free & Appropriate Public Education (FAPE) in the least restrictive environment the same as their non-disabled peers.”

“Schools have a tendency to think about 504 just for physical or mental disabilities,” said Colette Martin, but “a 504 plan helps students who have things like allergies, asthma, diabetes and more,” said co-host Felicia Carter. “It is a plan that follows them through school and provides accommodations where they are needed.”

If you are not familiar with the details of 504 plans, “go to the U.S. Department of Education website and download the definition for a 504. You will most likely be able to qualify your child after reading this document,” advised Cheryl.

Maria Acebal noted, “Any school, public or private, that receives federal funding (i.e., a lunch or milk program) is subject to Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973. And, for private schools not covered by 504, the Americans with Disabilities Act provides similar protections. (Religious private schools are exempt.)”

And there is a distinction between Individual Health Plans (or Individual Emergency Plans) and a 504 plan. “We use our IHP – Individual Health Plan – to outline emergency procedures should our son have a reaction,” said Nicole Smith. “The 504 Plan outlines accommodations.”

“Other adults can be trained to care for your child,” noted Gina Clowes. “Yes, a full time nurse is wonderful to have, but your child can still be kept safe. A solid 504 plan or other written plan with a number of trained adults is a good place to start. Studies show that when caregivers are trained to avoid, recognize and treat allergic reactions, the frequency and severity of reactions decreases.”

Gina added, “Severe allergies need to be taken seriously. It’s an invisible disease (mostly). Our kids look healthy, and you’d never know that cross contamination or breathing in the wrong food could cause this healthy-looking child serious harm.”

Here are a few more resources on 504:

Parent Advocacy Brief: Very Important Information on Section 504 and ADA
http://www.ncld.org/images/stories/Publications/AdvocacyBriefs/UnderstandingADAAA-Section504/UnderstandingADAAA-Section504.pdf

Compliance to Section 504 is not optional
http://www.wrightslaw.com/blog/?p=53

Section 504 FAQ from the Office of Civil Rights
http://www2.ed.gov/about/offices/list/ocr/504faq.html

Devising a plan for your child at school

Maria Acebal, who is FAAN’s General Counsel, offers these suggestions to consider when devising a good school plan:

What is a food allergy?
What causes an allergic reaction?
What are some of the symptoms of an allergic reaction?
What is the recommended treatment?
What is on my child’s Food Allergy Action Plan?

“Even if your state doesn’t have food allergy school guidelines, it can be helpful to use other states’ guidelines as a resource,” added Barbara Rosenstein, Food Allergy Initiative. “These are based on best practices developed by experts.” http://www.faiusa.org/page.aspx?pid=407

Allergy safety: nut-free schools

“Schools that claim to be nut-free … what are we looking at?” asked Vish. “Do they just not serve nuts? What happens if a child bring PBJ sandwich for lunch? Is the lunch sent back home? My question really is – what do they promise?”

“I assume the school will have to decide if it’s just visible nuts or includes items that could contain nuts (cross contaminated foods), etc.,” answered Thanita.

“It depends. My son went to a ‘nut-free’ preschool and got a full-sized Snickers bar in a treat bag once. Human error,” added Gina Clowes. “I like to start with a really solid written accommodation plan (my preference is a Section 504 plan) and then move on to other school-wide policies.”

EBrady reminded everyone that “risk reduction in ANY way never means risk FREE. However . . . risk reduction and improving safety with improved outcome ought to be the goal!”

“I think there are many valid approaches to food allergy safety, and restricting foods in classrooms or schools is one of them,” said Maria Acebal.

Agreed Gina Clowes, “I think about 20% of U.S. schools are peanut free, but you do not have to have a peanut [or other allergen] free school to keep your child safe!”

Allergy safety: keeping Epi-pens nearby

If your child attends a school where there is a chance he or she could be exposed to their allergen, you should insist that an Epi-pen be kept nearby and accessible.

Many schools will keep Epi-pens in a locked cabinet, but “there are other, valid alternatives to keeping other students away from medications without a locked cabinet,” said Maria Acebal. “If you are told that it is ‘regulations,’ ask for a copy of the exact regulation being referenced.”

“I am in Chicago, and we were told that the Epis were only stored in the office and it was non-negotiable,” said Jan. “It was also non-negotiable to me that the Epis/inhalers [needed to be] in the classroom – so I first raised a stink at the nurse level, then the principal level. After I told them that I would take it to Chicago Public School board – they suddenly changed their mind. Push forward until you get what is best for your child.”

For older children, “Most states allow children to self-carry the epinephrine autoinjectors (Epi-Pens) if they can self-administer,” said Gina Clowes. “There are a handful of states that have not passed a ‘self-carry’ law yet. However, even in these states, the district can allow the child to self-carry.”

Here is a listing of all the states and the relevant laws pertaining to self-carry: http://www.foodallergy.org/page/legislation

Helping nonbelievers understand allergies

“We are our children’s greatest champions when it comes to their emotional and physical safety,” said Lori Sandler. That means overcoming administrative obstacles and educating those who don’t believe in the dangers of food allergies.

“One important thing to remember is all this is a PROCESS,” said Maria Acebal. “One conversation won’t do it. It takes multiple calm, confident communications.”

As an educational tool, Maria also suggested showing “the video produced by FAI called ‘Someday.’ It’s on YouTube. It has children talking about what it’s like to have food allergies.”

http://youtu.be/AzyLv2IKoGA

Michelle compares peanuts to germs to get the idea of food allergies across to those who don’t “get” it. “You can’t see them, but if my kid touches the ‘germ,’ invisible peanut residue, he could become sick. I see lots of light bulbs go off,” she said. “People understand the invisible germ and how it can make them sick, and they know that they should wash their hands and be mindful of them. Now they can be aware that food can be a problem for some people” in a similar way.

You can also team up with other parents who have kids with food allergies to unify your efforts.

“I started a Food Allergy Group at our school a few years ago. We were able to put several policies in place to help our kids,” said Cheryl. “First of all, we implemented the ‘blue form.’ Any food coming into the school for parties, birthdays or holidays must be written on this form and sent into the school at least three days in advance so that food allergic kids’ parents can provide a similar snack. If it is not on the blue form, it is not allowed in the school. We have also limited the amount of food coming in – holiday parties can have one healthy snack and one not so healthy snack. Teachers are not allowed to give out food in the classroom to prevent exclusion of food allergic kids.”

Starting kindergarten with food allergies

It can be especially difficult to send a food allergic child to school for the first time – in kindergarten or Pre-K. There are steps you can take to increase safety at school for young children with food allergies.

“I believe it’s never too early to teach a child to advocate for their food allergies,” said Jenny Kales, Nut Free Mom. “I’ve found that it really helps kids to stay safe if they can speak up and ask questions, ask for help.”

Agreed Elizabeth Thielke, A Mommy Story, “My daughter is only 6, but she’s beginning to understand that certain foods make her sick. By constantly talking to her about which foods aren’t good for her, she’s learning how to recognize them and occasionally even remembers to refuse them.”

“Teach your child to recognize symptoms of allergic reactions,” added Lori Sandler. “It is critical for children to know the symptoms of mild and severe allergic reactions, and have key people they feel comfortable turning to (including school nurses, teachers, coaches and friends), without hesitation.”

“I have info here that you might be interested in to help you with kindergarten. It is scary to start the process, but you can do it!” said Nicole Smith. http://www.allergicchild.com/foodallergyandschools.htm

Additional resources:

10 Things to know about food allergies in the classroom
http://www.healthcentral.com/allergy/c/48542/103188/things-classroom
5 Tips for food allergies at school
http://www.healthcentral.com/allergy/c/48542/83444/taking-allergies
Protecting your child from food allergies at preschool
http://www.healthcentral.com/allergy/c/48542/67942/protecting-child
Helping adults “GET” that food allergies are a matter of life and death
http://www.healthcentral.com/allergy/c/48542/70066/helping-allergies

Feeling left out

In addition to physical health safety, you should keep your child’s emotional health in mind. Their food allergies may cause them to feel excluded and isolated.

“My son hated the idea of a separate table,” said Libby, referring to the nut-free cafeteria table that some schools set aside for kids with allergies. “He has a designated spot at the end of his class’s table that is wiped down before he sits there. Sometimes he’s at the end by himself, but if his friends don’t have peanut butter or milk, they sit next to him.”

“I was concerned about the nut-free table too,” said Jodi Grundig, Mom’s Favorite Stuff, “but in my daughter’s kindergarten, it’s become a very close-knit group of friends and I feel comfortable sending my daughter to their houses for playdates because their parents are vigilant too.”

Apart from lunch, when snacks are offered in the classroom, you can ask to be alerted ahead of time and prepare a similar allergen-free snack for your child. It’s even better to avoid food in the classroom altogether when possible.

“Here’s a site that offers some helpful non-food ideas for school events, Halloween, etc.,” said Barbara Rosenstein. http://greenhalloween.org/content.php?page=treats#treats

Additional Resources

“I wrote this piece in Newsweek’s “My Turn” column a few years ago,” said Becki. “Yeah, I plan to hand it to my daughter’s teacher next year…and every year.” http://www.newsweek.com/2008/05/31/a-plea-for-my-daughter.html

“We parents of children with food allergies need to be reasonable ourselves!” said Allergic Child. “Check out this article I wrote about our experience.” http://www.allergicchild.com/reasonableaccommodations.html

Thanks to our wonderful hosts:

Lori Sandler, Divvies

Gina Clowes, Allergy Moms

Barbara Rosenstein, Food Allergy Initiative

Maria Acebal, The Food Allergy and Anaphylaxis Network

And fabulous co-hosts:

Elizabeth Thielke, A Mommy Story

Felicia Carter, Go Graham Go

Libby, The Allergic Kid

Jodi Grundig, Mom’s Favorite Stuff

See the original Talk here: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62181

Good Enough is the New Perfect

April 28, 2011 by The Motherhood

On April 28, 2011, authors Becky Gillespie and Hollee Temple hosted a Talk in TheMotherhood to discuss their new book, Good Enough is the New Perfect.

The participants chatted about when they feel judged, when they are most likely to feel guilty, and how to let go of perfection and realize they are good enough – and that’s perfect!

Read on for the highlights of the conversation!

A book idea is born

“Becky and I had been friends since college, but motherhood brought us back together,” said host Hollee Temple. “We were talking about the challenges we faced as moms with ambition who also wanted to be present for their kids. And when we looked around, there wasn’t a book out there. So we decided to write it ourselves!”

“Women kept telling us that they felt alone in their choices,” added host Becky Gillespie. “It was hard to find other women who were approaching work and motherhood in the same way, largely because women have so many choices today.”

Moms in social media

Becky pointed to the Internet and general upbringing as factors that overwhelm us: access to huge amounts of information, and being told as children that we could do anything – making us feel like we should know and do EVERYTHING.

“The Internet both connects us and isolates us,” host Becky pointed out. She noted that she and Hollee, as they conducted research and interviews for their book, found that “the most successful women were strategic in how they used the Internet… Some found a lot of comfort in connecting with other moms who were experiencing similar struggles… Others found it overwhelming. But that latter group was often able to strike a middle ground once they became more strategic in their use.”

Participant Chrysula agreed, “The internet/social media becomes this huge addiction and time suck, but also a critical space in which to feel heard and regroup. You then can pull back over time and find focus and choose the spaces where you are growing and feel most comfortable (often not the same). And you scale back to pay proper attention to the real people around you.”

Feeling guilt

As multi-tasking moms, many women often felt guilty about spending time on work instead of family, and vice versa.

Co-host Lara Galloway said, “I used to feel guilty all the time whenever my kids wanted my attention but I needed to get some work done. Felt like I was always stealing time from my family.”

On the bright side, “the guilt can be useful as it forces me to ask myself if this is a legitimate interruption of work or family time, or can the matter wait or be redirected,” added participant Chrysula. “But when I accept that whatever it is needs to be attended to at that moment, the guilt is no longer useful, and it simply has to be cast aside for action.”

Host Becky Gillespie concluded, “a good mom also models a balanced life. My hope is that when I allow myself time to work, time to be with my girls, time for myself, I’ll teach my girls to allow the same for themselves as adults. Or at least that’s what I tell myself so I won’t feel guilty.”

The need for perfection

Guilt often stems from trying – and failing – to attain an ideal of perfection. And on top of that, failing to attain that perfection sometimes leaves us feeling judged by other moms.

“I feel the need to be perfect when I’m working on something I’m deeply passionate about. I felt that way about the book. But that felt like a ‘healthy’ perfection because I wanted to go for it,” host Becky said. “Unhealthy perfection happens when I do something only because I’m afraid I’ll be judged … like when I go crazy cleaning my house to impress.”

“It sounds silly, but I feel pressure at my children’s pre-school and academy!” said co-host Nikki Williams. “I feel like all the other moms are watching me and waiting for me to make a mistake on snack day, dressing my kids in the right uniform pieces, my choice of food items to contribute on party day, etc.”

Added co-host Kristin Maschka, “I think my ‘perfect mom’ kicks in most around time with my daughter and whether we are getting her all the right experiences she’ll need as an adult. I try to step back and realize she gets tons of ‘parent’ time – with me, dad, grandma and grandpa, and friends who have become like ‘parents.’”

“The best thing about being ‘good enough’ is that you can choose when to aim high … and when to let it go,” said host Hollee Temple. “I love just telling people not to notice the mess.”

Takeaways from the book

So what would Hollee and Becky like women to get from their book?

“I hope they will feel less alone. And I hope they will realize that work/life balance issues are worthy of public conversation,” said host Hollee Temple. “It’s so much easier when you can talk it out with people who have been there.”

Added host Becky Gillespie, “I think once women realize how many others struggle with these issues it will be easier to leave behind the comparisons and start choosing for themselves.”

“This is exactly how I felt after reading the book,” affirmed participant Shannon. “I felt less alone and I do believe this is a very worthy topic in our society.”

“It’s so important – that ‘I’m not alone’ feeling – because it also means we are able to open up and have the honest conversations we need to unpack WHY we have the perfectionism,” added co-host Kristin Maschka. “Namely, the long history of cultural expectations that have been heaped on ‘mothers.’ We aren’t simply ‘perfectionists’ as if it’s a flaw. There are lots of societal reasons for that perfectionism.”

Co-host Nikki Williams pointed out, “To make good things happen, I really think you must expect those good things and work hard to make good things happen! I hope other moms, other women, will read the stories in the book and know things can get better!”

Learn more

Learn more about Good Enough is the New Perfect: http://thenewperfect.com

Buy the book on Amazon: http://amzn.to/newperfect

Remodeling Motherhood, by Kristin Maschka: http://www.remodelingmotherhood.com

Thanks to Hollee and Becky for joining us for a fascinating discussion, and thanks to their wonderful co-hosts, too!

Lara Galloway

Kristin Maschka

Nikki Williams

See the original Talk here: http://tmotherhood.wpengine.com/talk/show/id/62192